<p>^^^NM, you know your Ds are reading these posts, right?</p>
<p>Nope…they have no idea about this site! Too involved in their real lifes and way too busy with practices, classes and friends!</p>
<p>I’ll take the sibling attending the same school over the boyfriend. I was impressed by the poster on that other thread who realized she needs to carve out her own separate life on campus. Even if they do end up at the same school, they may break up by Thanksgiving, rodney. </p>
<p>I think it’s interesting that siblings would want to go to the same school. My oldest would absolutely hate that. My youngest is hoping my oldest picks a school he would like as he would like to try to benefit from any admissions bump that having a successful sibling attending might bring. I think he needs to worry more about his grades! Personally, when I moved in HS the one thing I really liked was the chance to carve out my own identity and reputation instead of having teachers say, “Oh, are you __'s sister? Oh, I know we can expect great things from you!” It was so nice to walk in with the clean slate and show on my own what I could do.</p>
<p>I just got S’s final visit booked. When he returns all worn and weary, he will be faced with make-up work from an entire week of school, exams, and a decision to make in three days. He prefers leisure to mull such important things over. Ugghh. Hopefully, seeing the campuses will have made his choice clear.</p>
<p>“Even if they do end up at the same school, they may break up by Thanksgiving, rodney.”</p>
<p>yup…we were at accepted student day at said school on Monday; when I asked my D (very tactfully, I might add) what she will do if they end up at the same place, she replied (annoyed), " I don’t even know if we’ll be together by prom this year…We’ve already discussed it; you don’t need to deal with this." Ugh…</p>
<p>2blue: Are you sure we don’t have the same kids??? My younger D is pulling for the school SHE wants to apply to (she’s only in 9th grade) so she has that “sibling bump” as well…Yes, we told her to worry about her grades first…!!! (and, no, the older one would NOT be happy about this if she knew…)</p>
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<p>I was very glad school boundaries changed before I started high school, because I, too, wanted a chance to carve out my own identity and reputation. Not that any of my older bro’s teachers would have said, “Oh, are you __'s sister? Oh, I know we can expect great things from you!,” his reputation being something quite different from “great,” indeed!</p>
<p>I had a younger bro who was not even a year younger than I who followed me into the same high school, but fortunately, we never shared a teacher/activity/etc.</p>
<p>Well, rodney, if mine weren’t boys and yours weren’t girls, we might have the same kids as we both have scheming 9th graders!</p>
<p>Okay, gang, tiramisu is served! The coffee is fresh, and so is the wait staff; enjoy!</p>
<p>Lovely…dessert before lunch!!</p>
<p>Yes, something with ladyfingers had to be served! :D</p>
<p>I can see some similarities between my oldest and middle sons and yet many more differences. But as much as the middle one seemingly can’t wait to get out from under the thumb of his older brother, he is literally bumping around the house already when his older brother is off visiting colleges or something…if they weren’t so different in their talents he might very well take the easy road and apply to schools where his brother applied. But, luckily, he wants math/engineerig/German whereas his older brother wanted creative writing/philosophy. Older brother wanted small school, cold climate. Younger brother wants large-ish school, doesn’t care about the climate. Younger brother, however, has a serious girlfriend a year older so my biggest concern will be to make sure he doesn’t apply where she ends up!</p>
<p>I have two kids at the same college, and it’s nice. It’s nice to have vacations synch up, and it’s nice that they get to see each other once in awhile, outside the context of the rest of the family. First quarter, they probably saw each other three times a week (i.e., a lot). It has spaced out a lot since then – once a week or less. Sometimes just to say hi, sometimes to share a meal or go shopping together.</p>
<p>It helps somewhat that they have pretty different interests and social groups. Also, while the older child casts a long shadow on the younger one’s psyche, the younger one is the better student in many respects, and has more conventional success.</p>
<p>Thank you all for relating…really my concern is that my older daughter’s school only has 750 students…so even though they would have different majors and be living in different dorms, they would still see each other everyday (one cafeteria with very limited hours). In some ways, I know this would be nice for them, but in other ways I’m concerned because there is a bit of rivalry between them. Also, while this school is a great fit and has a highly ranked program in my older daughter’s major, it’s not the best fit for my younger daughter, nor is it as good for her major. I think my younger D is attracted to how easy it would be for her to go there. It’s close to home, older sis could drive her around, and it’s basically free for us with the scholarships she has there (what’s wrong with me…I should be thrilled!!!).</p>
<p>Sitting tight during this vigil is getting harder and harder!!!</p>
<p>Is it cocktail time yet??? I’ll have a Mojito today!</p>
<p>:: plies 2for with liquor ::</p>
<p>Bottoms up!!!</p>
<p>I think D went to Barnard just so S couldn’t follow her. No, not really, but I do bet it was in the back of her mind. Even though he’s younger, she can’t get over thinking of him as a chaperone. S wouldn’t want someone commenting on his clothes everyday, which D would do.</p>
<p>The situation JHS describes sounds perfect.</p>
<p>DS is still waiting for the merit award reconsideration from the other school that is still in the running (thought I believe it is a far second at this point). The school says it will have a decision by Fri (possibly) or Monday, but the last group admitted students day is Friday, so I guess thats out. Soon…it will be over soon… I am relieved, but a bit saddened. Its been an emotional but a fun ride.</p>
<p>^Yeah, my son and I were talking yesterday about how the mail is going back to all boring stuff now.</p>
<p>I know what you mean–I can hardly believe the mailbox was such an emotional place just a year ago. Now it’s no fun at all!</p>
<p>Interesting thread about siblings and schools. Younger D has already put in her two cents - she has ‘dibs’ on applying anywhere her sister chooses to go! So weird! I expected her to want to go someplace different - although she might when the time comes. Just shows that somewhere down really deep, there is respect and appreciation for that older sib who’s she’s always fighting with…:-)</p>
<p>My kids would have loved to have gone to the same college, but alas, the admissions office at D’s school didn’t think that was a good idea. S has narrowed his final choices down to two schools, and his sister is rooting for the one in the same state as she is in. Despite being less than 22 months apart in age, they’ve never been competitive with each other and have always been best friends. They enjoyed being in high school together and thought college at the same place would be nice too. One math teacher in high school asked my S if he was as smart as his sister. I cringed waiting for his response, and he just said, “I think so.” That was the only time there was any overt comparison by a teacher that I was aware of, and my S doesn’t seem to have any scars as a result. I am still shocked that a teacher would ask a student that. </p>
<p>13 days left to make a decision . . . .</p>