<p>nceph: When I was about four a dumb relative asked me, “Who do you like better, your mommy or your daddy.”</p>
<p>My mother said I just looked at him as if he had two heads.</p>
<p>That’s what that teacher deserved, too. Your poor boy having to make such a judgment and putting the idea that “smartness” can be ranked and rated. Just another pisprision of our numbers obsessed society.</p>
<p>There are so many different kinds of intelligence; one kid does one thing better and another does another better. </p>
<p>mythmom, that actually reminds me of another dumb question that was put to my S when he was about 8. When we were overseas visiting relatives that the children had never met before, my uncle asked him during a large family gathering, “Who is your favorite relative that you’ve met during the trip?” He paused and said, “My great grandmother.” I think he figured it was hard to go wrong with choosing the 99-year-old matriarch. At least that was the choice that would be least likely to offend anyone else present. So, I suppose he’s had a good bit of experience in handling dumb questions from adults. He’s developed a pretty good sense of diplomacy as a result.</p>
<p>And may I say in this category, please don’t ask other people’s kids to rank their schools before they even know where they are accepted! Just show interest in all their potential options.</p>
<p>Even though D2 is quiet when teachers ask if she is like her sister she shows her sense of humor and competitiveness and always replies that she is better! hehe!</p>
<p>Too funny! I am having blue cheese and garlic stuffed olives at the moment as appetizers while I wait for H to get home. (and of course the cab/shiraz blend is wonderful!);)</p>
<p>Well S1 and D will have the same alma mater, but she started the fall after he graduated. S2, the monkey in the middle, didn’t apply to S1’s school, but D applied to both. Maybe its different for different sex sibs. And I must say, D has made some friends who knew and worked with her brother and she is involved in some of the same ecs. She actually said it was nice to hear, “Oh, you’re Dan’s sister”. And I believe that school has a secret language because sometimes when they talk, I have absolutely no idea what they’re talking about!</p>
<p>Wow, busy post day for the vigil; long, boring outside meeting kept me off the PC all day, plus the long ride to the hotel for a college visit tomorrow. I’m sitting in the hotel room right now, wondering what tomorrow will bring. At least I’m not getting in the car to grab an ice cream sundae.</p>
<p>S is an only child, so I don’t have to deal with siblings going to the same college. I couldn’t afford another college tuition anyway, so all is well.</p>
<p>My twin brothers, who were a year behind me in school, attended the same small college I did. It wasn’t a problem for any of us! We didn’t hang out together, but we enjoyed seeing each other around the (miniscule but fun) campus. Actually, we had LOTS of siblings at our school. It definitely can work out just fine.</p>
<p>I want to add, don’t ask your kids to rank their schools either, unless you’re certain they’ll get in and you can pay for it. What is the point??</p>
<p>I meant to post the above earlier, when it might have made sense, but it didn’t post and we went out to a Dar Williams concert, so here we are. I could eat some ice cream…</p>
<p>Thanks everyone for making me feel better about the sibs at the same school thing! I’m an only child, so I’ve always been a bit mystified by the whole sister relationship dynamic. Maybe it would work out ok, but I still have this gut feeling that the younger one should go elsewhere…but bite my lip I will!!! I don’t want to be blamed for any bad decisions.</p>