<p>Bombs away!! I know. It’s all good. Maybe she can hitch a ride with him to Boston once in a while. That way she can continue to tutor him. Sorry, I can’t seem to help myself.</p>
<p>Oh boy, jnsq: Boy do I admire her for being able to understand such difficult concepts and explain them. I’m sure that means she can do whatever she wants in life.</p>
<p>What a great attribute.</p>
<p>je<em>ne</em>sais_quoi, your D is going to do so great at Smith and her lab partner will have a hard time trying to find another “teacher” as good as she is!!!</p>
<p>je ne sais quoi—go for it–if not here where? your daughter sounds amazing</p>
<p>kitkat–tomorrow, tomorrow…</p>
<p>mythmom–you go girl–state u grads unite–although a well worn cliche–its not where you go but what you make of your journey…</p>
<p>je ne sais quoi - I have my moments, too, so you’re not alone. Your D sounds incredibly amazing. She will shine.</p>
<p>Fellow vigil loungers - it is now April 30 (not that I needed to remind anyone). The waiting list vigil starts soon :(. S is getting happier and happier about his choice each day, I think the waitlist school is falling to the wayside.</p>
<p>So…last night ex hubby called my son - told him that he had gotten through to FA office - they told him that DS was not eligible for FA because of his income. Same as first time around. I had requested a waiver of including his income, because he does.not.pay.a.dime. </p>
<p>It would have been nice if somewhere along the line they had notified ME - the person who requested the waiver - and the person who is actually paying the bills. I was definitely disappointed in how it was handled - we had requested re-evaluation from two other schools and they did not handle it this way. We were notified via email and regular mail, and told verbally that a decision was forthcoming. </p>
<p>We will be submitting this evening - until he signs the papers, I don’t want to say anything! But I will be posting IMMEDIATELY thereafter!</p>
<p>Oh, kitkat, I’m sorry the school handled things so poorly - especially when it involved something this important.</p>
<p>Kitkat, like I said before, I think the way this was handled says something about the school. I don’t know if you’d want to deal with that for the whole four years, every time a financial issue comes up. Ugh.</p>
<p>I’m sorry it turned out this way, and hope it all works out. Do let us know of the decision when you can.</p>
<p>kitkat–that fa office was unprofessional thruout–your son has excellent options and he sounds like a trooper–sorry you both had to deal w this extra stress…and good luck tonight</p>
<p>Mythmom,
Oohhh, thanks for clarifying. I thought it was someone’s name on CC and I couldn’t figure it out. Looked like “yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus”, saying “yes, Paretsky, the student center is wonderful”. Me bad. I need an extra cuppa Joe.</p>
<p>Thank you all for your support! This thread has been a lifesaver for me - all of #2 son’s friends are locked and loaded and have been for a month - as are all of my co-worker’s kids who are in the same boat. As you all know - this whole topic can really be life-consuming. We want the very best for our kids that we can provide and we want them to have happy fulfilling lives - but at the end of the day, they will need to make the final choices about WHERE they apply and then where they end up. In the meantime, its our jobs to encourage, play devil’s advocate where needed, listen and help with their decisions. </p>
<p>Although I was not happy with how the school handled this, they made their position very clear to me from the get-go - that both parents are responsible. Unfortunately as many of us know, the world is not that black and white. My son knew too, that several of the schools to which he applied were going to be reaches for he and I financially. I have been a nervous wreck over that aspect, even more than the actual admissions, for months. By not hearing, it extended the hope that maybe they would take our circumstances into consideration and that maybe there was a shot at it. </p>
<p>Had this not all happened so late last night, we would probably have wrapped it up last night. I think we can actually accept online - not sure if we need to then send the paper copy too.</p>
<p>Waitlist, shmaitlist. We are still in the 7th circle of college decision hell. </p>
<p>This thread moves FAST!</p>
<p>jnsq: Vent away. Your D sounds remarkable. A future physics professor, perhaps? She will have an extraordinary experience at Smith.</p>
<p>jym: Not up to speed. Did your S decide on Tulane?</p>
<p>Sending hugs to wjb.</p>
<p>Thanks, kitkat. And hugs to you, too. Obviously, I’m not up to speed on your situation, but I certainly agree that the way the college handled your FA situation says much about the administration’s ability to communicate – and the value they place on good communication. Was the school a top choice for your son? It sounds like with this resolved, he has a clear decision. That’s good.</p>
<p>kitkat, although I am not in your exact position, I empathize 100% with what you said about that extension of hope…we want so badly to be able to give our kids everything we feel they’ve earned, and it is heartbreaking for us when the circumstances don’t allow us to. You are handling this so graciously. I’m sure if I were in your shoes I would be venting with a much greater degree of anger and frustration. Your child will learn a lot about how to deal with life from your outlook-- grace under pressure.</p>
<p>kitkat, it also occured to me, and I hope I’m way off base here… any chance your ex-husband is lying to you?</p>
<p>kitkat82: You describe a parent’s role perfectly. Argh! Hope is either a many feathered thing (E. Dickinson) or a torture chamber. Glad your vigil has come to an end. Things will start to feel better soon. Hope S is not too disappointed and can get on with feeling excited. </p>
<p>wjb: You poor thing! Mimosa?</p>
<p>“kitkat, it also occured to me, and I hope I’m way off base here… any chance your ex-husband is lying to you?”</p>
<p>Possible. But the story he told DS doesn’t reflect terribly well on him (his numbers make FA unavailable - but he isn’t helping to pay). Plus this is the school that ex now wants him to attend (since he did not get into ex-'s first choice). The fact that they have not responded to my emails or phone calls after all this time is not promising. I asked my S this AM if he wanted me to follow up one last time. He said why bother. </p>
<p>I may still call. But not sure what good it will do!</p>
<p>kitkat, if you feel inclined to call I would do so-- just to verify the facts. But, also, if the FA office has been dealing with you all along, why did they give info to ex-H and not directly to you? Me-- I would want to know. You may be different.</p>
<p>I would suspect that he called and threw a tantrum and went over heads to talk to someone. Which is what I would need to do in order to get some sort of response, and in fact what I had planned on doing today. I think its very telling that they have not responded to any of my calls or emails to date, yet have had our information for almost three weeks. </p>
<p>For all I know he has been in dialog with them all along. I probably will follow up one last time - to close the final loop - but I cannot imagine at this point that they are going to come up with money.</p>