<p>When I was out with a friend (girl) at a restaurant, the waiter automatically handed the bill to me (I’m a guy) as opposed to putting it in the middle of the table! Should I have spoken to the manager? I simply told him that I was not the one paying because I didn’t want to get distressed. I believe the mentality of this man is dangerous to society.</p>
<p>Um…he probably assumed you were on a date…Its nothing you should go coo coo over…</p>
<p>So what if we were on a date? His mentality is still a danger to society.</p>
<p>Also, those commercials where the father is lovey-dovey towards the daughter but not the son are sexist as well and must be pulled off the air immediately.</p>
<p>There is always the possibility that the waiter randomly placed the bill in your hands - not because he was sexist and assumed that the male should pay the bill. One does critically think through every action in life before acting. He could have thought that someone would pay the bill, and he just handed the bill to the nearest person.</p>
<p>You cannot determine this person’s “mentality” by observing only one event. Do you personally know this waiter? It’s like saying since 3 is prime and 5 is prime, all odd numbers are prime. 
And with this assumption, you state that he is a danger to society. In essence, you are guilty of the crime you accused the waiter of!</p>
<p>You’re all really funny. 'Tis the truth…</p>
<p>umm…get over it. Stop insisting that the world needs to be this politically correct utopian 24/7.</p>
<p>No, no… he winked at me, suggesting that he was wishing me good luck with the girl or something (in reality, it was not a date). It was not random!</p>
<p>Smallz, even the small, insidious things perpetuate sexism. Their portrayal in the media make them seem acceptable. Sexism runs rampant, especially in commercials for kitchen products. These things should not be tolerated!</p>
<p>Maybe he was gay and thats why he winked at you.</p>
<p>I don’t think so. He seemed like he was into her actually.</p>
<p>Interesting possibility.</p>
<p>Or maybe he had something that just flew into his eye, like a small fly. Once I swallowed a small fly. And then another one flew into my eye. I had to drag its small, crumpled body out with a finger (the index one, in fact).</p>
<p>Although I deleted the post (but only because you set a precedent), I still stand by what I said: I’m on your side, don’t worry.</p>
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it’s not his mentality I’m worried about here…</p>
<p>I think you’re just looking way too much into this.</p>
<p>How so, tritium?</p>
<p>Yay sunshine!</p>
<p>…although I do think that saying he’s a menace to society is going a bit too far.
It probably is because of ingrained sexism that the incident happened but speaking to the manager or talking to the waiter about would also be going a bit too far.
Just know it, label it and move on from the incident.</p>
<p>How could we change these behaviors then?</p>
<p>Focus on a small community, like your school or even your family.
Don’t try to change every single person because it won’t happen and won’t work.</p>
<p>And you have to learn to give more leeway to people who are accustomed to doing certain things instead of assuming them dangerous to society. One can be slightly sexist and be a good person. </p>
<p>Just curious: How did the girl you were with take the incident?</p>
<p>She was smiling the whole time because she knew what I was thinking (I maintained my composure the whole time, of course). She just took the bill and paid for it (that’s what we had agreed on).</p>
<p>Freaking out about the whole incident…I understand a little annoyed, maybe blog about it…but confronting him or talking to the manager is going quite far.</p>
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<p>I’m not worried about his mentality…</p>