<p>Jeeeez! this past weekend was the prom, and many of the kids went ‘down the shore’ afterward. I allowed my d to go for the afternoon and evening on Saturday; no sleeping over. She managed to get into trouble anyway. She and a girlfriend wrote in shaving cream on her good friend’s car: LOCK YOUR CAR as a joke. The boy is not amused, and says it ruined his paint job. It was on his car for a maximum of 2–3 hours, in the dark not the hot sun. I am totally willing to pay for whatever damage has been done, and take it out of D’s earnings for the summer. I’m kind of freaking out, though, cause this kid drives a BMW suv. Anyone know how badly damaged this car might be? How much this might cost? She did it on the hood. I thought shaving cream was relatively benign. I had told D once when our house was egged on mischieve night that I wished the kids had used shaving cream instead of eggs cause it wasn’t as bad, so she figured it wouldn’t cause damage. I’m disappointed at her judgment, and I feel bad for the boy with the suv. But I also feel kinda bad for my d, cause she really didn’t mean any harm. Oh, well, there goes whatever money she could have earned this summer for college!</p>
<p>If you google ‘shaving cream car’ you’ll find some advice which boils down to…it’s possible the ‘clear coat’ on the car was damaged so that may indeed need a re-spray. But if it’s just on the hood then the entire car won’t need to be done. What I’d suggest is that your daughter and friend offer to wash and polish his car…if they use good quality wax and the shaving cream didn’t etch the clear coat, it should come out all right. If not, it’ll be time to take the young man and his car to your local body shop for an estimate. I definitely think your daughter ought to pay for it.</p>
<p>Oye vey! I would go with DD and see the vehicle in question. It may not be as bad as it sounds…</p>
<p>Oh, she’s definately gonna pay for it! lol…I just feel really bad about the whole thing. Anyone have any first-hand experience with this?</p>
<p>she wrote it on the body?
I have seen it on the back windshield- but most times I see a different sort of actual paint being used</p>
<p>It depends on what was in the shaving cream , how much damage it could cause, but here are some tips to make sure it comes off
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<p>Thanks so much for that post. The boy won’t answer my D’s calls. He’s pretty mad. She has texted him a number of times, asking how much the damage is and promising to pay whatever he needs. I don’t know if he rinsed it off right there or waited. It couldn’t have been on the car very long–2-3 hours, so it didn’t have a chance to harden much. It was a tiny little travel size of Colgate shaving cream. (I guess we should be thankful that it wasn’t bigger, huh?) I can’t seem to get a fix on how much worse/better this particular shaving cream is than other ones. I have read that each one is different and the damage each kind does comes from whatever chemicals are in it.</p>
<p>while I wouldn’t recommend vandalizing cars- my first impression is that a high school student who drives a BMW SUV, is perhaps- “particular in their tastes” or in language that we all understand * spoiled?*</p>
<p>I looked up what a BMW X5 runs, and it is almost what we paid for our “starter” house, ( which is not what we owe on it)</p>
<p>it might help to offer to have it washed professionally and buffed- but I would give him time to cool off.</p>
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<p>I agree that his anger might be more assuaged with the offer of a PROFESSIONAL doing the job than with you/daughter doing it.</p>
<p>Maybe it didn’t do anything to the paint job and he is just really angry that she did this to his car. Otherwise I think he’d answer her calls.</p>
<p>When did prom become the time to do pranks?</p>
<p>I have to admit that the first thing that came to my mind was the same as EK’s–a high school kid with a BMW SUV?! Different world!</p>
<p>My second thought is if he’s being such a jerk about even talking to her, he doesn’t sound like much of a friend.</p>
<p>And my third thought is–before you pay, get a look at the vehicle to be sure it’s really as damaged as asserted.</p>
<p>Before skewering the kid for driving a BMW- it might belong to the parents. He could have just borrowed it to go to prom. We own extra cars and let our kids drive them, but the cars are not “theirs”.</p>
<p>If the kid came home with shaving cream on dad’s car, and dad got mad, then the kid is taking it out on tanya’s daughter. Hopefully he’ll get over it soon. </p>
<p>Tanya- make sure your daughter doesn’t do what my son does when he messes something up of his brother’s. He has a tendency to defend himself by downplaying the injury- “that’s not such a big deal…it didn’t really matter…”</p>
<p>It’s the kid’s own car, but that doesn’t mitigate what my daughter did wrong in any way. What a disaster this weekend was for my D. First, she got a $40 parking ticket in a spot near the boardwalk between two white parking lines that she thought was ok. Then, as she and her friend were walking out onto the boardwalk from a store, she heard thundering and felt the boardwalk shaking. She looked and saw hundreds of kids running toward her in a panic. There had been a shooting between some criminal and the police! The kids were locked into various stores for awhile. (this was in Seaside Heights, NJ—not usually a shoot em up kind of place at all–we stay there for a week each summer and have never seen anything like it) Thank goodness for the huge police presence they have on prom weekends. Then she had a fight with her best friend, then the shaving cream, and finally she ended up driving an hour home by herself after midnight. A parent’s nightmare weekend, to be sure. I’m glad I didn’t know all of this until she got home. Thankfully the only damage that was done was on the poor boy’s car, which we will gladly take care of. Good thing the prom was wonderful, anyway.</p>
<p>“it’s the kids own car”…phew, wow, holy cow and good grief all rolled into one :)</p>
<p>Still betcha theres no damage :)</p>
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<p>And I’m sure he’s thinking–If she would vandalize my car, she doesn’t sound like much of a friend. Why would you make a mess on your friend’s car?</p>
<p>I’ll agree with ‘the holy cow’! I had a BMW X5, but only after years of ‘paying dues’. That being said, I can understand being upset to have ANY damage on such a pricey car. (Being almost irrationally worried about my car all the time is precisely why I got rid of it.) </p>
<p>After he cools off, tell the kid you want a professional to look at it. My d had her little car ‘trapped’ in parking place by an inconsiderate driver (fellow student) who was in a rush and parked at an angle. She was late for cheer practice and tried to worm her way out of the spot and put a minor scratch on his car. She shouldn’t have tried to leave and should have just waited for him to return to his car…but she was panicked at the idea of demerits…sigh. We offered to get his car fixed, but he tried to scam us out of payment for a new paint job on the entire car. It was a ridiculous experience.</p>
<p>WEll, I think it’s fairly obvious she didn’t mean it as vandalism, any more than writing “clean me” in a dirty window is meant that way. Her mom made it clear that she had thought that shaving cream was harmless.</p>
<p>That being said, of course if there’s damage she should pay, but when she’s trying to apologize and find out the exact situation, and when she didn’t mean to cause damage, then I maintain that he’s still being a jerk.</p>
<p>I find with situations like this that it depends on who the kids were, what the past relationships have been. My son would laugh off something like this if it were done to his car by certain kids, and deck others.</p>
<p>Yea, there’s something else going on with this anger, I think. But I’d sure feel better if I could see it and figure out what it’s gonna cost me–or my D. There was another girl there with her who participated, but she’s not likely to help out at all. She’s the kind who never chips in and lets everyone else pay. UGH! What an expensive day for my D, between the gas, tolls, ticket, and the damage to the car, she’ll be working all summer for this one day of fun.</p>
<p>My d had her little car ‘trapped’ in parking place by an inconsiderate driver (fellow student) who was in a rush and parked at an angle.</p>
<p>If someone parks so * you * can’t get out & you are legally parked?
Then it pretty much is their fault whatever damage is done to their car.
Cellphone cameras come in real handy for that sort of thing :)</p>
<p>When I park, I do make a lot of effort to make sure I am leaving plenty of room for all the cars around me, cause I know the next person may not, and I may need the room, but it really jerks my chain when others don’t follow the same courtesy- it makes me miss the van, that another scratch wasn’t noticable ( plus I could could get in the sliding door)</p>