<p>Loved reading this thread today… I was actually in the panic mode AGAIN this morning with thoughts spinning like a hamster on the wheel…thinking…there is still time for her to change her mind…It’s only April 30th… and not worrying so much about the separation at this moment… although that will be hard…but worrying if she will like the school she picked and if everything will be okay. This is a challenge. Thanks so much to all of the people who posted their honest and intimate feelings. It helps to know I am not alone.</p>
<p>Just as I heal from the sorrow of sending my eldest across the country for school, another mom announces that her child is staying “in state” and she is “so happy that he/she will be close.” And, I envision weekend visits, dorm gifts, at-home meals that will not happen with my son. Then it evolves into girlfriends, jobs, grandchildren… sadness again. I encouraged his independence but did I neglect the importance of family proximity? I know about all the kids that stayed close and then moved away and visa versa but, generally, if they stay close, they remain. Are we neglecting the importance of family in our quest for “success/independence”?</p>
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<p>How does selecting a college that is a better fit equal neglecting success.</p>
<p>I went to school instate on the west coast and have lived on the east coast for the last 20 years while my family is still on the west coast. I moved because my husband was offered a job on this coast which we could not turn down.</p>
<p>You assume something that is false. You cannot predict your children’s future anymore than can predict your own. Just pray everyone stays healthy and alive, then concern about where they live will move way down on the list.</p>
<p>I have one D who went far away to college, and just as far away to grad school. She says she dreams of the day where she can begin her career-back in our state.</p>
<p>D2 stayed in state and plans to work in state (due to her major, it’s pretty likely though not set in stone). </p>
<p>Don’t worry, your child may come home after being away for several years. And I agree with above, why sweat what you have no control over anyway? Just be glad they are happy and healthy-that’s a huge blessing in and of itself.</p>
<p>ReadandRun - I’ve had all of those emotions and then some. We love our kids more than they can possibly understand. My D says…“don’t worry mom…it’s only four years.” I know that the only constant in life is change, and while I do not always embrace this truth, I can appreciate it. I hope you got some sleep last night. (((Hugs)))</p>
<p>Oh you are not alone. I remember when my first one left and out of state. It was so hard. Just keep yourself busy and try not to get too clingy. Give them a bit of space. For those that loved the days with our kids, it is probably one of the hardest things we have to do. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.</p>