Yeah so I’m a senior, so this is my last homecoming. All my friends have boyfriends, so otherwise I won’t go at all. There’s this one guy who I really like, he’s a junior. He’s in one class with me, Marketing, and sits all the way across the room. Two years ago, I took band with him and we were both in percussion, so I’ve talked with him but not extensively. Haven’t spoken to him since then. He’s really close with my best friend’s boyfriend, so I know that he’s single right now, but they just got together, so I don’t want to ask anything else.
You could start a conversation by asking him something about the marketing class or if he’s still doing percussion/why he stopped (based on that situation.) Basically, something that connects you.
You can ask if he’s going to homecoming and take it from there. Given how little contact you two have had, you may want to propose to go as friends - it’s a way you can both go, but no pressure to be more for now. That’s really your call though.
I definitely think you should go to homecoming. And that includes going single or in a group if that turns out to be the best option. Do not miss it just because you don’t have a date.
I do think you should ask this guy, though. Because you like him, and why not?
I think you have 2 options:
1)Scope out the situation ahead of time by asking your best friend to mention to her boyfriend that you kind of like him, and finding out if he might be interested.
2)Just asking him.
Worst case scenario is he says no. Which is a good life experience and which is not so terrible once the initial disappointment and embarrassment passes (I’m a woman who always had a policy of asking out guys if I was interested, and some said no, but mostly they said yes.)
I’m embarrassed by this, but I wondered if you would be interested in going to homecoming with me?”
If he hems and haws, just say, ‘ok, I know it’s out of nowhere, but I wanted to ask a friend who would be fun’.
Or something like that.
IMPORTANT NOTE: My husband told me that he “rejected” girls who asked in HS and college because he didn’t know how to dance. It wasn’t personal, it was just self preservation!
