<p>Thank you to everyone, you are giving me some good thoughts and routes of conversation to pursue. Speckledegg, I will bring up to her what would happen if he did come to visit? And if he did live around here and was the person he is, would she even consider hanging around with him? What would her real friends think? And I will emphasize the fairness to BF, because I know that the relationship is not as innocent as she wants me to believe. Along with the fairness to PG - she may be leading him on with no intention of ever getting together with him, and that’s not fair to him either.</p>
<p>Good work concernedmom, I like the self-assurance you convey in #41.</p>
<p>Wow, I guess I’m in the minority, but the guy is on his way to being a convicted felon at the age of 18 - forget the mother, I would have been in touch with him by now telling him that if he thinks he’s in trouble now, he hasn’t seen anything if he doesn’t drop off the face of the earth as far as my daughter is concerned. I don’t care what’s fair to him - he needs to get lost. When my D was a sophomore, she had no expectation of privacy when it came to the computer - that’s just the way it had always been and she never questioned it. I had her Myspace password and I checked it all the time and she didn’t use the computer anywhere except in a public space.</p>