<p>Why are you the only permitted visitor? Hope fully you can go with someone else and have support as well.</p>
<p>I have nothing to add to these excellent suggestions, but I am thinking of you too.</p>
<p>Fauxmaven - I’d like to recommend a book by Dr. Amit Sood of the Mayo Clinic. (there is also an accompanying workbook) He teaches ways to retrain your brain from focusing on negative thoughts. Every Doc at the Mayo was required to take his seminar - it is supposed to be amazing and focuses on mental stress resilience training. </p>
<p>Dr. Amit Sood “Retrain your Brain”</p>
<p>Hugs and stay strong</p>
<p>Hi- I am back. How are you all? My son is doing well-minimum security is like a bad summer camp without the field trips. I have missed you all. Please say hello.</p>
<p>So glad to get an update. Glad your son is doing okay. How are YOU doing these days?</p>
<p>Take care. :)</p>
<p>I second what Nrdsb4 said. We are concerned about you, fauxmaven. Please tell us more.</p>
<p>I have visited about 6 times now. It really seems pretty nice, all considered for a prison. My son is pretty upbeat. I doubt he will change his ways, but I can always hope. If this happens again, he knows the time will be more severe and he will do time " behind the wall" which means in a cell 23 hours a day for at least 1-2 years. On Mother’s Day my son paid 1.00 to have a photo taken of the 2 of us. On the back it says " Happy Mother’s Day from NSP ! " What a special memory!</p>
<p>Hi Fauxmaven,<br>
Hang in there!!! We are rooting for you and your son! :-)</p>
<p>If the visiting situation is like I’ve experienced, kudos to you for doing it. The waiting room was sad, sad, sad and the set up inside was pictured pretty accurately on TV, which means it kind of sucked. I got to go into and through prisons, including Jackson, which is an intimidating older prison like in the movies. But the public part was soul-sucking. So kudos for sticking it out.</p>
<p>How much longer, faux?</p>
<p>Hi faux!
Thanks for the update; glad things seem to be going well.</p>
<p>Nice to hear a positive report, fauxmaven. Glad you are checking in.</p>
<p>He will be in this prison until Feb, then he will be transferred to another facility for Assessment, and then another half way house. They are really tough in the Minimum Security section!! A guy was caught smoking a cigarette late at night in the shower, and had 3 months added to his sentence and was sent back behind the wall! 23 hours a day in a cell. The guards are getting to know me a bit. Last time I visited, my son did not appear after 5 minutes, and I asked the officer to call him again. When he appeared a couple minutes later, the guard chewed him out (with a smile) and said ," Don’t keep your mom waiting! " The hardest thing to watch are the little kids, who are not sure what is going on with their dads, why they are in prison. At least they can sit on their dads lap if they are under 4, and ages 5-17 can sit next to their dad. 18 and up have to sit across from the prisoner. Kids are not allowed to run around or bring any toys , so they tend to get restless. The only thing I can bring into the visit is my driver’s lisense-that’s it. No keys to the car- I hide them on the car.No sunglasses or a bottle of water. NOTHING. At least I get to hug my son at the beginning and end. After the visitors leave, everyone who had a vistor is strip searched-all cavities. He has gotten used to this. That’s all for now. Please ask any questions you might have.</p>
<p>Hi fauxmaven, I have been thinking about you and hoping that you would check in. Take care.
FG</p>
<p>I’ve been thinking about you too-thanks for updating. My H works for our county and says all county buildings are completely smoke-free, though he doesn’t know what would happen if someone was caught smoking. Still, 3 months additional time for that seems harsh! I’m hoping your son will be one of those helped by serving time-a relative of mine went through something similar and has been out of trouble for 30 years now. Best of luck to both of you.</p>
<p>Thanks for the update, fauxmaven. I’d been wondering how you were doing. It seems like things are going as best as can be expected. I hope your son makes whatever changes are necessary in his life.</p>
<p>Thanks for updating us fauxmaven. I have heard that kicking the cigarette addiction is one of the hardest habits to break; I feel for that guy who now has to serve an additional 3 mos. </p>
<p>I worry about this one statement you made, * I doubt he will change his ways, but I can always hope.* That’s right. Let’s hope this time he is ready for rehabilitation.</p>
<p>Fingers crossed that he WILL change his ways.
Glad to hear that you are well.</p>
<p>Thanks for the update, I think of you often! I am so glad you get to hug your son! </p>
<p>Last year’s Miss America (Laura Kaeppeler - her father was in jail when she was young) has made children of the incarcerated her cause. Have you considered starting a blog, support group or a book that might help families of those incarcerated.</p>
<p>Because of 2 brothers who may need security clearance at some point, I am not going to go forward, I even had a great title for a book, " Harvard Mom, Felon Mom’ !! This will be a family item. My Harvard D has visited him, but his 2 brothers, 23 and 26, will not. They are angry about his poor choices. They are both on a straight and legal path. I think Harvard teaches students to be more thoughtful and openminded about such things. She is a non drinking, organic vegan, and 21.</p>