<p>Just because someone may need to get security clearance at some point in their lives doesn’t mean they can’t visit a brother in prison. If the brothers haven’t any type of criminal record, their visit to see their brother won’t ever show up in a file. Two completely separate issues. But, I suspect there’s more of the family dynamics going on (i.e. their lack of support) than simply worrying about getting a security clearance.</p>
<p>The security clearance is not the issue so much as the prejudices of those who are looking at the report. Yes, it can make a difference, though by how much, I don’t think is much. We can’t pick our family members, and I 've known a lot of people with rank relatives. Not many families are spared having everyone with clean records. I don’t think in this case, with the crime and penalities, it’s something that the other family members have to worry.</p>
<p>My husband insists I don’t interview with today’s version of Oprah! I can not write to the NY Times either. I must keep this quiet. My 2 sons are unhappy with the poor choices my eldest son has made.</p>
<p>I think that is probably best to preserve the privacy of your other children as much as you can. I had a situation in my own family some years back when I could have been interviewed on TV and in newspapers, but I chose not to do that. </p>
<p>Reading this thread has helped me with perspective on a recent poor choice my D made (regarding her boyfriend). It’s all relative.</p>
<p>So glad your worst fears were not realized about this person term. I’m sorry you have to deal with being in the “middle” of your family as well as everything else. Your daughter sounds amazing!</p>
<p>Your daughter sounds amazing! Amazing in what way? She is 1 of a kind, no doubt about that! Sometimes I think Harvard pulled her in strange directions!</p>
<p>I think she sounds amazing in that she can be open-minded and can visit her brother even though it is harder for other family members. It sounds like she is a great support to you. (I have a 20-year-old sometimes-vegan always-vegetarian daughter myself, whose compassion and courage often impress me.)</p>
<p>It’s been 5 months since my son went to prison, and none of my fears were realized. Mind you this is MINIMUM Security, not " behind the wall" where the scary prioners are. My son says that the minimum security experience is like a “bad summer camp” without any trips. I just wanted to uipdate my followers about my son’s journey.</p>
<p>Thank you so much for checking in!</p>
<p>Half way done is terrific!!</p>
<p>Its going to be over soon. Wish the best.</p>
<p>Great news!</p>
<p>fm, I am so glad he will soon be back with you. What does your son have to say about the experience? Has been able to have access to the help he needs? Is he beginning to plan for his next steps? A fresh start…</p>
<p>Fauxmaven, I am very glad to hear that you and your son are doing well.</p>
<p>Thanks for keeping us updated, fauxmaven. I’m really glad things have gone better than you expected.</p>
<p>Thank you for updating us…you sound as though youare adjusting and being realistic…you probably are not aware that you are thought of by many of us often…take care…</p>
<p>Whew, so glad to hear!</p>
<p>Parenthood is the hardest. job. ever. Hang in there Fauxmaven! Half way through this trial, and then joy comes in the morning. :)</p>
<p>Happy to hear that it isn’t as terrible as you feared. Hang in there.</p>
<p>Got a BEAUTIFUL card that my son convinced a fellow prisoner to make for a pack of peanut M&Ms. He used 1/2 a manila folder- the front is a set of bars witha big heart locked to the bars by a set of handcuffs! Inside is a fabulous glitter rose and an elaborate script message from my son with a happy 60th. Very touching- a birthday I will NEVER forget!</p>