<p>academy, institute, seminary, division, establishment, hall</p>
<p>Not sure if this helps.</p>
<p>Fauxmaven----Happy Birthday, even though a bit late!</p>
<p>Our middle D has had a couple of stints as guests of her county—check-kiting and being in the wrong car during a robbery – and the car had a gun in it. She is having a hard time learning in the School of Hard Knocks she has enrolled herself in. We have not heard from her in several months and that usually is not good. </p>
<p>Please do not tear yourself up; it is the last thing your son or the rest of the family need. Send all the books & materials the prison allows, such as sudoku or novels, etc. The time drags. </p>
<p>I read the whole thread and you sound like you are doing a lot better now than in the earlier posts. Please know that you are thought of & carried by many. I send you my best!</p>
<p>Nu Sigma. Fraternity of the unwilling.</p>
<p>Happy Birthday fm and hoping for the best for you and your son. My wife’s oldest brother had some struggles, in and out of NJ’s fine establishments.</p>
<p>Happy belated birthday, fauxmaven.</p>
<p>They take kids 11-17 and they do a series of prison experiences- the kids actually spend time in jails in their county. Real prisoners get in their face sometimes, and other times share experiences and regrets. Many kids turn their lives around. It’s especially inspiring to me, given my history. The show was made by A & E.</p>
<p>^^^No, but I’ve seen the original Scared Straight, and that was some intense stuff. I will try to catch this one.</p>
<p>Faux - too funny with the gated community comment. You could say it’s very exclusive - they don’t let in just anyone. And it features top notch security. I’m thinking it’s more of a wellness sanctuary. :)</p>
<p>Hang in there.</p>
<p>Craft herpes. Best line on CC today.</p>
<p>Here is what I have learned is frustrating about prison as a mom. The inability to get a message to my son! The only method I have is to write a note to him. On Saturday, 3 old friends went for visiting. One wore pants that were not " Prison Friendly" so they all left. I am sure my son was wondering what happened! I guess that’s how its supposed to be! Anyway, Happy Holidays to CC !</p>
<p>Thank you, Faux. How much longer for your son?</p>
<p>If all goes well, he will leave the prison in Feb and go to an " Assessment Center " for 2 months, then a 1/2 way house.</p>
<p>would you mind explaining what makes pants “prison friendly” or not prison friendly? I’ve never heard of this before!</p>
<p>I’m guessing they were cargo pants?</p>
<p>Oh, the list of what to wear to a prison visit is about 3 pages long! No hoods, bare arms, anything beige( prison color), no exposed rear ends (too sexy) for the women, backless footwear, for some ideas! The first time I visited, I wore a jacket over a sleeveless dress. The guard said no go, because my dress was sleeveless. I went back to the car, pulled my dress off, and put fleece jacket UNDER sleeveless dress. That passed. The guard said I was " creative". Don’t know about cargo pants, but no hats, sunglasses or belts! Even infants get patted down!</p>
<p>Nothing clingy, no bra straps showing, nothing see through. My D visited recently for the first time. She is a size 6, and I lent her one of my 14 dresses, so she was VERY modestly dresses. The guard said she failed due to her flip flop sandals. I offered her my 7 shoes, although she wears an 8, and said I would wait outside, but the guard let her in anyway! He has heard that my son’s sister was visiting, and was nice to bend the rules a bit.</p>
<p>Most prisons are inundated with contraband brought in by employees and visitors. This is one of the reasons why they have seemingly irrational dress requirements. During visitations there are often many people being observed by a few corrections officers and they can’t see everything. Prisons attempt to reduce incentive for bad behavior by controlling dress. Next time you get tired of going through TSA, try a prison visitation.</p>
<p>Next time you get tired of going through TSA, try a prison visitation.</p>
<p>That is so true! So many rules! People are not allowed to bring any toys for young kids. Try keeping a young child happy without anything to do for 2.5 hours. They can’t run around either. And you don’t want to make any complaints, as it could affect your prison inmate.</p>
<p>She wore flip flop sandals in Dec in NJ? Wasn’t she cold?</p>
<p>We taught S how to use paper to make things when we started taking him on flights and to sports events. That way you CAN keep a young child entertained for a considerable time with paper and colored pens or pencils. It was cheap entertainment.</p>
<p>Go glad you and your D were able to visit your S and that you were creative about the dress code with the guards. I remember the one time I visited San Quentin. It was an eye-opener. The prisoners wore jump suits and we law students were all conservatively dressed. At the end of the tour, we were told that the guides escorting us were all convicted murderers, who tended to have the best reputations. </p>
<p>The food they served us in prison was much better than the prison food I’ve eaten in HI. Our prison food is heavy on processed food–processed mystery meat and lots of processed carbs–white bread, white rice, some mystery canned veggies and flat soda in a styrofoam bowl. All of the food was served on disposables, with plastic utensils.</p>
<p>All inmates who get a visit have a complete cavity search after the visitors leave.</p>
<p>jym,
We just had a bizarre (for Dec) warm spell. It’s over now but it sure was nice while it lasted.</p>