Either my H has surprised me with a piece of jewelry, or we’ve picked it out together. Although I wear most of the jewelry - he’s a watch only guy - it’s still something we share and enjoy together. I cannot imagine picking out a wedding band without him. He surprised me with this particular ring and picked it out entirely by himself. The ring is from a NYC Fifth Ave jeweler - the kind of place her husband has never and would likely never step foot in. Maybe that bothers her more than I realized. I do think Kajon is right about how it likely happened. I know she was with a family member who really doesn’t know me well, but someone I’ve found to be kind of snarky and negative (based on her stories about him too), so he may have encouraged her.
Ah ha. Left alone, she may have waited to discuss with hubby. But having a “friend” with her, encouraging her on, could have been the deciding factor.
So what will u say to her, GMom?
H would buy much of my jewelry from hotels where he stayed or wherever he was told that Americans shopped when he was on foreign travel. I had to point out I only had one neck, 2 wrists and a few fingers I ever wore rings on to get H to stop buying jewelry.
Maybe your friend greatly admires your marriage and the relationship you have with your H and aspires for her marriage to be more like yours?
Sister wives sounds like a polygamous situation with one husband and many wives who are supposed to all be thrilled to share the one Fabulous H.
@HImom, there’s a TV show on TLC with that name and that exact situation. I’ve watched it for about five minutes and found it totally creepy. Who does that guy think he is that he deserves four or five wives??
Well I can certainly understand why the H goes for the arrangement of having 5 wives but I will never understand why the women would agree to it.
I’m not sure why a guy would want 5 wives…yikes. Way too much potential for drama. Id hate 5 husbands!
Based on the fact that four or five women seem perfectly happy to line up and marry him, I guess maybe his sense of entitlement is justified.
The guy must be exhausted!!
I like having just one spouse – it would tire me out having entanglements with my kids having half siblings and sharing my spouse. It’s not something I’d ever choose. Emotions get interesting enough without more people added to the mix imho.
I think if you are VERY young and naive when you are swept off your feet and then afterwards don’t think you can object because “who else will have you and support you and any children you have?” If you have very few/no marketable skills and all folks in your community are expecting women to stay home and be supported? Opportunities for people vary widely.
Well, emotions aside, how can one husband earn enough to support all those women and their mutual kids? As far as I know, none of the women work.
@VeryHappy, according to Under the Banner of Heaven, some of the “underground” polygamist communities rake in huge amounts of public funds to support all those "fatherless: children.
On the original topic, I had a friend who copied everything I did. She went to the same ob/gyn. Our kids went to the same childcare/preschool. She bought 12 place settings of the silver I selected when I married. She bought china patterns that I had bought for myself in England years before. Only where I might have 12 dinner plates, she had 12 place settings. She bought a Waterford biscuit barrel that I had received from another friend as a wedding present. I had framed hand-tinted botanical copperplate prints that I had bought in England when I lived there and had framed. She bought some–more, of course–but mostly reproductions and had them–naturally–more elaborately framed. I had Persian rugs, so she bought a larger and more garish Pakistani version on her own. When she moved, I took her to a good rug store from whom I had bought a small rug years before and we looked at some older, better, rugs…and what do you know, the next week she went back and bought them and got rid of the Pakistani one.
I commented on some of these acquisitions, and she replied, “I don’t have any taste and I like yours. So I copy it.”
Bizarre, but true.
I don’t really get the concept of “replacing” wedding rings, and to me a ring that was a replacement ring in the first place would be less meaningful from the get go. Your story suggests that you and your H had conversations in which you said you would prefer something other than your actual wedding ring, which again, I don’t get, but then I gather that you and he both like jewelry and talk about it, so I guess that explains it.
It seems to me that your friend is simply clueless. I find her desire to copy you, even when she cannot afford to do so, rather pathetic, honestly. I don’t think she had any intention of inflicting pain.