Thank you so much gardenstatelegal
They started off with friends there, wanting to do things, but the first friends were all boarding students. My kid was the only day student in the little group so it was pretty isolating. It was also completely unsustainable. Eventually they said they couldn’t be friends with boarders because they were unreachable. Still friendly with, just not friends. That piece was hard for me. I have a kid who is picky about friends and you keep half the school away from them. They have made attempts with some day students this year. It may work out in the long run with them. They are trying. No desire to do anything social with boarding kids ever again. So they were frozen out, for a long time, and then they gave up and yes, I might have wanted more for them. They had a lot of love in the day school they came from so this whole thing caught me by surprise.
An unusual kid, but not an introvert. Friendly, usually well liked, I think well liked there, but definitely particular about actual friends. Asks to do things in the community here to fill the space. I help set that stuff up, but that’s not where you get friends in high school. It’s just stuff to do.
There was zero risky behavior from the boarding kids. Super nice kids. All of them overly anxious. Not behavior problem kids at all. I spoke to their parents at an event last year and they told me their kids adored my kid. So it was super unfortunate that they were shut out.
No day student specific activities. They SHOULD be doing this. It’s a great idea. Especially because the other day student parent I spoke to had the same experience with their student. Lonely. I doubt I would feel this way if the first friends were day students. They also don’t offer evening activities. End of the day and they are done.
Kid knows I would drive to the moon and back for them so distance isn’t an issue if they meet day students.
Won’t board. I asked. Don’t think they would ever consider now it given the circumstances.
Uggh. Socializing. You got me here. It’s the one thing I won’t do. I went to everything initially but having a glass of wine with people who excluded my kid (or any kid). Just no. I’m actually upset enough that I wouldn’t be good company.
I see the consensus is if the classrooms and after school activities are excellent, and they are, I should be happy. I appreciate the feedback. It helps to keep the focus on the good stuff and there is lots of good stuff.