<p>Mine have not yet given me a run for my money, but they are still in High School. I did, however, grow up with brothers. All I can say is that I hope I have a fraction of the calm that my parents exhibited when the boys were in their late teens and early 20’s. They were always in some sort of hot water. I am happy to report that all my brothers are uber successful today, and the stories still keep us entertained at holiday gatherings.</p>
<p>njfootballmom, We have two sons. So We’ve lived through double the craziness. Some of which involved law enforcement officials. Stuff happens. Lessons learned. </p>
<p>Hey, if you haven’t had a visit from the bomb squad, on your birthday, you haven’t lived!</p>
<p>I was over at a friends one Halloween, when her teenage son heading out the door asked " Do we have any wire cutters?"
:-? </p>
<p>And my girls, heading out the door to go cook up their senior prank, asked to borrow all the Saran Wrap and plastic cups we had. Who knew that Saran Wrap could cause so much trouble? Or that they would fill each plastic cup about 1/2 way full of water and place them about the floor so that no one could walk about with out getting extremely irritated?</p>
<p>Glad we do not have any senior pranking. It just gets so troublesome. Are parents not stressed enough?</p>
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<p>I believe that the story about the mysterious girl could be true as well because we had a similar incident happen several years ago here in our hometown.</p>
<p>It was early in the morning prior to the school day and the roads may have been a little slick (I don’t recall), but police were called to the scene of an accident where a teenage boy had overcorrected and his car had flipped over. They found that there no drugs or alcohol involved, but he was most likely driving at a high rate of speed. He explained to the police that he was driving and was responsible. There was an article in the paper with pictures.</p>
<p>That same morning the girlfriend of said teenage boy was taken to the hospital by her mother with some cuts and bruises.</p>
<p>I believe it was the hospital staff that asked how she was injured and she admitted that she’d been in the car with her boyfriend on their way to school. So, then I’m not certain if it was the hospital staff or if police got involved at that point and asked why she’d left the scene of the accident and she admitted…‘oh, yeah, I was driving’. Turns out the boy was just being chivalrous and wanted to protect his girlfriend from trouble, so after the car flippd he told her to get out and leave and he’d accept responsibility. She walked back to her home with her minor injuries and when her mom saw her, immediately took her to the hospital for treatment.</p>
<p>I can envision my son doing that too. He’d much rather be the one to get in trouble than watch one of his friends get in trouble when he feels like he could help. So, I hope that he never winds up in such a situation.</p>
<p>Can we stop equating drunk driving with senior pranks? Driving drunk is not an adorable prank like something with saran wrap and paper cups. It is a crime. It’s not cute.</p>
<p>Was someone doing that?</p>
<p>Yeah, several people were saying things of the form, “I know how you feel, OP, because my child was involved in senior pranks.” But being involved in senior pranks is nothing like drunk driving. I’m concerned that this young man, having gotten off comparatively lightly, will drive drunk again.</p>
<p>I guess if you assume he was lying about the girl driving then he did. I hate to jump to conclusions in a situation I am familiar with only through 2-3 posts on a message board and a hundred speculative posts by people who weren’t there either. </p>
<p>The OP doesn’t believe the story about the girl. Look at the thread title and the subsequent posts.</p>
<p>The OP knows her son better than any of us, and she has doubts about the whole girl driving story. It’s no some huge insult to say that a person doubts the truth of that part of this story. Many people, both good people and not so good, have found themselves lying about an incident in order to avoid harsh consequences. I doubt anyone posting here has not done that at some point in their lives.</p>
<p>Wouldn’t the neighbor across the street that saw the incident and reported it know if there was a girl involved? After all, supposedly there was another car following the son who was then supposed to take this girl home. So the neighbor should have seen two cars…and should have seen a girl get into another car and leave.</p>
<p>There was no girl. No-one including the OP thinks there was a girl. The designated driver crashing into a pole and jumping into another car to get home story is silly.</p>
<p>As I’ve pointed out, it is not at all uncommon for someone to drive a person home with a friend following to pick them up. But the fact is that none of us were there so we don’t know.</p>
<p>IMHO it is silly to continue to maintain that there was no girl when you can’t possibly know. :)</p>
<p>Yeah, I gotta go with common sense and the mom’s judgment here. I f she thinks there was no girl (which she does) there was probably no girl. In any case, as a parent my kid is required to tell me the whole truth in all of it’s ugliness. Then, we deal. Refusing to identify the girl wouldn’t fly. But, this is not criticism of the OP. Thankfully, it all worked out pretty much as I expected. And, could have been so much worse.</p>
<p>well, if the OP believes there was no girl,and s’s story to police now includes that he was in fact the driver then it would appear there really was “no girl” . In that case, the OP’s son drove under the influence. this is a larger issue than the fact that he’s willing to pay for the repairs etc. Not criticizing,just pointing out as of course you already are aware, it’s wonderful that no one was hurt and the current situation is resolving. Sometimes we get caught up in the immediate crisis and the plan to fix it without seeing that the decision to drive while drunk must be addressed. (it seems fairly obvious that the reason son said there was a girl driving was to escape criticism/punishment for driving under the influence. Hope some education/attention to this issue is also addressed.</p>
<p>“There was no girl. No-one including the OP thinks there was a girl. The designated driver crashing into a pole and jumping into another car to get home story is silly.”</p>
<p>I agree that it does sound odd that the “car crasher” would just leave the scene and expect the boy to take blame, pay, etc. </p>
<p>That’s why I would put an end to it by just asking the phone-calling neighbor what he/she saw. I would then use that truth (if no girl) to have a “sit down” with my child about lying to me…because such a lie would obviously be to hide the “drinking and driving” - which would be a huge “no no”. </p>
<p>The OP talks about the “cost” consequences, but what about giving some consequences for drinking and driving. That’s why I would want to know!</p>
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<p>Me too. No amount of money would be enough for me to hand the car keys right back to a child who drove drunk. If you drive drunk, you shouldn’t get to drive again for a long time.</p>