<p>“we parents would be more than pleased that DS brought home a partner to share a room”</p>
<p>Yes, I think my parents were delighted and relieved when I had a bf to bring home! According to my sisters, my parents also decided to suppress any thought about what might be going on in our shared room. The door closed, all was quiet, and that was it. They were about as eager to think about my bedroom activities as I was eager to think about theirs. (Yech!)</p>
<p>Since I was the first one to use “morals” and “conscience” I will chime back in to say that Hunt and Pizza Girl said it better than I did. Just because my kids know I disappove doesn’t mean we don’t have lots of open dialogue about their current temptations, what their friends are doing and how they are handling sitations, what mom and dad might’ve done/wished they wouldn’t have when they were younger. The two things can co-exist. I hate the assumption that if you don’t allow “sleepovers” because you see it as morally (gasp) wrong, that your relationship with your kids is a one-way street and you are chasing them around with a chastity belt and threatening to cut them out of your life. And they are downloading internet porn to get back at you! :D</p>
<p>This is my distinction…they know that we disapprove because we believe in traditional religious values, and NOT just because I think it is icky to hear them have sex through thin walls. I hope that opinion is just as valid as anyone else’s…even though it is old fashioned to say so. And I hope my son brings home a girl who shares that feeling of moral propriety…if he doesn’t, catch me on the “say it here” thread! :)</p>
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<p>Well, I’m actually the opposite, since I don’t particularly disapprove of premarital sex between college age students in a committed relationship (providing proper contraception and overall good judgment is used), but I don’t see a need to room them together under my own roof, and I really don’t want to have dialogue about their current temptations or what their friends are doing or not doing sexually. And I’m not really interested in sharing with them what I’d do differently, since truth be told, what I’d do differently would have involved more experimentation, not less. I’m quite open about things like contraception, though.</p>
<p>I guess my point is that if I think it’s immoral for them to share a room, whether they agree or not is a moot point if the room is in my house.</p>
<p>Where do you go to buy a chastity belt these days, anyway?</p>
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<p>That is the truth! And whether you think it’s immoral or simply not in good taste to share a room, it’s a moot point if the room is in your house!</p>
<p>Hunt - bubble wrap combined with duct tape, of course.</p>
<p>Yet another brilliant use of duct tape</p>
<p>My experience as the school-age younger sibling in the home when the college kid comes home with bf/gf is that there is NOTHING interesting to be heard through that shared wall. Nothing! Not even with a water glass. All they did every night was talk about their plans and what time they needed to get up in the morning. Very disappointing! I guess a younger sibling with a water glass in the next room is a big turn-off.</p>
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OMG!! Don’t google it whatever you do…I was gonna post something as a joke…eeeewwww!!! :eek:</p>
<p>LOL, Hanna!</p>
<p>nicksmtmom–I had forgotten whose quote those words came from, so I went back and looked to see why it stuck in my head once you claimed them. The quote was:</p>
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<p>That did stick in my craw, because I must admit to having a very highly developed conscience, and annoyingly over-active morals. And, I believe, a nice family, too. it was the intonation here that seemed to imply that anyone who didn’t feel uncomfortable must be amoral, conscienceless, and not so nice, either. I totally respect your having morals and would never expect you to apologize for them; that I don’t share the same ones doesn’t mean I don’t possess some particularly rigid ones of my own.</p>
<p>All our beds are memory foam on a platform. :)</p>
<p>Ha ha! Hanna, you make me laugh.</p>
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<p>Well, who told you to wave around the water glass? The finer points of discretion!</p>
<p>Whatever happened to fooling around in your parents some-what-semi finished basement before you both retire to separate bedrooms? That’s what I want to know!</p>
<p>Just because tradition means nothing to the younger generation doesn’t mean it can’t be forced on them.</p>
<p>funny, Toblin and Longprime!</p>
<p>Toblin, wasn’t that on “that 70’s Show” ?</p>
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I am glad you said that…I did not mean to imply that at all. Suprisingly, I feel that those who can truly say they have no problem with this are at least being honest. I don’t share those feelings, but I can respect a difference of opinion. As I said a little later on, that’s what makes the world go round. </p>
<p>I am simply going to say again that for those who have the vague uncomfortable feeling you can’t quite put your finger on, it might be a your grandmother rolling over in her grave! I still don’t know how you differentiate between traditional religious values (what I call morals…maybe a poor word choice is getting me in trouble) and social norms. I believe that’s where the social norms originated, in a moral context…and although we may have decided they are oppressive/irrelevant, they still bug us a little. </p>
<p>Either way, I have enjoyed the conversation, but am checking out…feeling like the last person on earth who is against pre-marital sex just because…</p>
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<p>Or “taking a walk in the woods.”</p>
<p>OP: I also believes in Latin phrase “Cathedra mea, regulae meae”.</p>
<p>I don’t let anyone use my DD’s bed when she is not around.</p>
<p>Whatever happened to bench seats in the car… 
Bucket seats just don’t cut it!</p>