<p>I have never understood why the concept of being treated well seems to be so one-sided. Shouldn’t two people who care about each other treat each other well (which would not indicate that one person pays for everything and drives the other person around)? I’m sorry if this is a little bit of a blunt way to ask the question, but this is something that has never made sense to me.</p>
<p>I do quite a bit for my H, but when we go out to dinner, he always offers to drop me off in front. If I’m wearing high heels and it’s a bit of a walk, I’ll usually take him up on it. It doesn’t mean I’m a “princess” - far from it. I consider this something that any courteous person would offer…usually the driver will offer if parking isn’t close by.</p>
<p>After my knee ( & before) replacement, H would drop me off, but since many restaurants won’t seat you till everyone in your party is there, I ended up waiting outside anyway, so I am happy that now we just walk if we are only going a mile or so.</p>
<p>My feeling is that a woman who expects to be catered to and is highly insulted if she isn’t treated like a princessr at every turn is… a bit of a princess. Why is this a mortal insult? I think that if that is what you want, you should embrace it proudly and be clear about it. That was my point. </p>
<p>I’m sure that oldfort’s D has no trouble finding young men who are enthralled by her and are happy to treat her as she wishes to be treated. That is what I said. </p>
<p>I find it quite remarkable that none of you who are now mortally offended appeared to even blink when several prior posters said that men should “RUN” from oldfort’s D. I said nothing of the kind.</p>
<p>@MomofWildChild, right back at you.</p>
<p>consolation - I have two daughters, so those two incidents were of two different daughters. And just for the record, my younger daughter did not demand or ask for the boy to take her home. He insisted on seeing her to the door every time they went out. Guys they date come to the door to pick them up, they do not honk at the drive way. They also do not run to meet guys when get texted so they could hook up. I have posted this a few times, “People will treat you the way you allow them to.” To expect men to treat them with respect is not being a princess, it’s called having a bit of self respect.</p>
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<p>Would be nice if the girl buys the boy a nice motorcycle for the engagement, when he buys a ring for her.</p>
<p>Then it is like the old custom of dowry and bride price. Each family compensates the other for the “loss” of their child, although in sorghum’s case, the couple pays tribute to each other. </p>
<p>oldfort, I suggest you go admonish the people who said men should run from your D.</p>
<p>I have a Tiffany setting diamond, about a 1/2 carat engagement ring. We went to the jeweler’s building in Boston to pick out the diamond. The diamonds were all wrapped in paper and the jeweler un wrapped a bunch of them and put them on a velvet tray and walked away, leaving me and H to choose. We were astonished. I later had the Tiffany setting lowered because it caught on everything. My grandmother left me her eternity ring and my current jeweler many years ago suggested that if I always wear my engagement ring, my wedding ring and my grandmother’s ring together that I have them soldered together to prevent wear. My mother gave me a diamond band about fifteen years ago and my H gave me a sapphire and diamond (okay, they’re really small stones but they’re really pretty) for my 60th birthday. So these days I wear five rings on my ring finger. Not something I expected to do, but there it is.</p>
<p>No engagement ring here. DH was not comfortable getting one at that time. </p>
<p>Have a gold band with Hebrew inscription, and for our 25th, DH got me a sapphire & diamond anniversary band in platinum (which was the engagement ring design I had dreamed of many years ago. I was so touched that he had remembered after all that time). Both rings need to be resized, as they now fall off my fingers. My wedding band is on my middle finger these days (is that a Freudian comment or what?).</p>
<p>Moving on from the snark-fest, did anyone here give their spouse a wedding gift? I got DH an engraved Cross pen/pencil set and, since he was allergic to my pets, a bottle of 100 antihistamines :)</p>
<p>I love that gift of antihistamines, jym! I got H a watch; in addition to my engagement ring, H also gave me a beautiful pair of aquamarine earrings which I loved. I loved my engagement ring, but sadly the stone was lost when (irony of ironies) we had it reset for our 25th anniversary. H would like me to have an anniversary band or something like that, but at this stage of my life there are other things I would prefer. </p>
<p>I am struggling to remember what gift he got me. That’s embarrassing…</p>
<p>I do remember a gift he got when we were dating. It was a very inexpensive t shirt (which I actually really liked and still have) and when I took it out of the box a strand of pearls fell out. Whatta guy.</p>
<p>The wedding was our present to each other.</p>
<p>I think our husbands went to the same school of gift-giving, jym. We were headed to visit my family at Easter when we were dating and H informed me he had something for me. He handed me a small box - too large to hold a ring - but inside was a small Steiff rabbit - wearing my engagement ring! </p>
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<p>I think it’s both–in a good way. And I wouldn’t have any problem describing my son or my daughter’s boyfriend as a “prince.” They know how important it is to treat women with respect.</p>
<p>I do understand the negative connotations of the word “princess” and I think demanding a certain size ring falls into that category.</p>
<p>CTTC, I had the ring about a week after it was reset - looked down and the stone was gone. The jeweler did nothing, other than allow us to return the now empty ring, even though it was obvious there’d been no trauma to the setting. </p>
<p>At the time, I was very sad, but as time passed, I realized there were so many other things that H had given me over the years that were worth so much more. And it wasn’t always “stuff”. </p>
<p>When my parents married, they were very poor. Even when Dad was successful, he was frugal. He wanted to surprise Mom one Christmas with a ring so saved his lunch money over the year to hide the expense from her and bought her a beautiful ring. I think she still prefers the original. H and I were in a better position financially when we married, but after my diamond was lost, H saved his pocket change and got me a beautiful aquamarine ring that I love. I realize aquamarines aren’t a high priced or high value stone, but I have an antique ring from my grandmother that I love - H obviously realized that. </p>
<p>@sabaray, wow ! I can’t believe the jeweler didn’t stand behind their work.I used to work in that business and the people I worked for would have. It’s about goodwill and reputation more than the cost to replace the stone ( which would have been not to high for them ) It makes me sad to read that 
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<p>And My starter husband and I gave each other wedding gifts. Mine was a sapphire and diamond ring ( that I gave to my oldest daughter ) and his was a Chelsea ship’s bell clock</p>
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People on this thread are using the word “demanding,” when it is really just good communication. A couple should be able to tell each other what they expect without labeling it as demanding, or being a prince/princess. If by chance, D1’s BF should view what D1 is asking for as outrageous then he should “run,” because later in life D1 may ask him to relocate due to her job, send their kids to private schools, go on vacations. Some people may view those requests as demands, but if that’s how she wants to live her life why shouldn’t she let him know? I see so many people keep their expectations to themselves and then get angry or passive aggressive when their SO can’t read their minds.</p>
<p>A good friend’s H likes to have cereal every night before he goes to bed. It is just cold cereal with some fruits cut up and milk. My friend would make it for him when they are home, and when they are staying at a hotel she would make sure it is ordered through room service. Is he being a prince or is she doing it out of love? I also know her H does a lot of things for her and some of those things may appear to be princessy to some people.</p>