<p>I have no advice, just compassion. I am so sorry.</p>
<p>I have a friend whose D committed suicide. She had been recently diagnosed with severe bipolar disorder. The story is painful, complicated, and terribly frustrating and sad, but in the end the way my friend chose to grapple with it is that her D developed a severe disease, suffered from it briefly, and unfortunately died from it. For her, it helped to view her D’s severe onset of mental illness like the severe onset of any other illness, rather than putting it in another category, as we often do.</p>
<p>My heart goes out to you and your family. I can’t even imagine the pain and saddness you all feel.
I am not sure what part of the country you are in but here the local churches run a group called Touch by Suicide that I know many families find helpful (in addition to counseling)
sometimes communicating with others who share your circumstances can help.</p>
<p>Also take your phone to the local shop maybe they can help recover your pictures…</p>
<p>Again my prayers for you during this very tough time</p>
<p>I can’t even come close to understanding what profound pain you must feel. So sorry.
Just know that you are in the thoughts and prayers of more people than you can count. Please accept our heart felt sympathy.</p>
<p>I am so sorry for your loss. My brother (38 at the time), died by suicide about 5 years ago. Although I had always scoffed at the thought of attending a support group for anything, I HAD to do something to come to grips with my grief. Several friends who work in the counseling field suggested I go to a survivors of suicide group called Heartbeat. I only went a few times, but I found it to be so helpful to talk with others who were dealing with the “coulda, shoulda, woulda” issues that come up. His wife and children went to support groups, too. (My parents and sister refused.) I came up with my own strategies for getting through the worst times–the best one was always having the tv on, or an audiobook–something with people talking helped to keep me from endlessly obsessing.</p>
<p>You probably have friends who would like to be able to do something to help you. Ask one to take your phone in to your provider to see if the pictures can be recovered. Your friend will feel better having something concrete that he/she can do for you–and you may not be able to cope with doing it yourself.</p>
<p>Just yesterday, I ran across some pictures I took the first Christmas after my brother’s death (it was four months later). My parents still look stunned and hollow. Every holiday (and birthday) was rough for a while. The conventional wisdom is it takes five years “to get over it.” I don’t think you ever “get over it,” but it does get better. Again, I’m so sorry.</p>
<p>I am so sorry.
My father died from depression, when I was 17 ( I was also very difficult).
It took many years to realize that it wasn’t my fault, that he wasn’t trying to punish anyone, he just wanted the pain to stop.</p>
<p>Your son’s pain has stopped- but I am so sorry that this was how it ended.</p>
<p>Counseling & time can help a lot- but for some of us, counseling too soon is like rubbing salt in the wound, when we want to be wrapped in cotton.</p>
<p>It is ok to try & forget for 5 minutes the pain you are going through. Your son I am sure did not want anyone else to suffer the way he was suffering.
Trying to find some enjoyment in life again, is a way to honor his memory.</p>
<p>I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope that before too long, thoughts of your dear son will bring a smile to your face rather than tears to your eyes.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry. I hope that you find the help and comfort you need.</p>
<p>About 14 months ago I attended the funeral of a brilliant and successful young man who committed suicide. All I could think of was his mother. There’s nothing worse that a human being can experience. You are succeeding just by eating and breathing every day.</p>
<p>I can only chime in that I hear your deep pain, and that I am glad you have reached out . Baby steps. A support group. A deep breath of relief and a fresh look at what good surrounds you.
We are here and listening, and many have good advice here.
Take care, heavyheart. I am so sorry.</p>
<p>I am so deeply sorry for your loss and you and your family are in my prayers. I can only hope that time will ease the pain. When my friend committed suicide, I was in depression for months until I finally got over it with a local support group and some church service. It wasn’t much but it got me through the day. I will pray for your family and just know that your son is in peace now, in a very light and warm place and in your hearts as well. Much love.</p>
<p>This year of firsts is the hardest…the very, very hardest. The first Thanksgiving, the first Christmas, … all those firsts are like an arrow to the heart. I hope you find a local support group that helps.</p>
<p>I feel so deeply for you. Both my sons, teenagers, are struggling with severe mental illness, and I have been reading everything I can about suicide. The scary part is that there is really nothing I can do to prevent it. It is a very impulsive act. I see a counselor myself to deal with the stress. I am glad you are seeing one.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine the pain in your heart… My deepest sympathy. </p>
<p>Try contacting the phone manufacturer and your service provider and ask them about possibility of recovering the photos. In most cases, data does not disappear without a trace.</p>
<p>Dear HeavyHeart, I am so sorry. I reread your post and you asked for resources. My best idea is to email drgoulston via gmail and ask him for direction. I don’t know where you live, but he is brilliant, knowledgeable and is sure to give you some suggestions. Tell him you were referred by a friend of Edwin Shneidman. You may also wish to look into Dr. Shneidman’s work. My very best to you as a fellow parent.</p>
<p>There is very little comfort at times- as the hours, days, and weeks pass. All the while your mind continues to try and process what you can never comprehend. Try, (no matter how difficult this might be for you) to take good care of yourself. Try! Remember to eat, rest, read whenever you feel up to it. Try and stay as busy as your mind and body will allow. Consider joining a weekly Family Counseling Group. Remember to breathe deeply. </p>
<p>Yes, I have been there. Husband…two years ago. Our children continue try to understand why their father chose to leave them. My children and I stayed in couseling for 2 years. Still, there will always be difficult times. </p>
<p>PM me if you’d like. The journey is a difficult one. I understand how just how heavy your heart is. I know. My children also know the magnitude of your family’s loss. Remember, you’re not alone. It’s always just about proceeding “one minute at a time”…ALWAYS. </p>