<p>To Emeraldkity4- I’ve come to realize that everyone has something, some sort of grief or suffering or struggles. To me, it might not seem like a big deal, but to the person who has the burden, it is THEIR burden, so it is significant. I remember right after my son died, I was out running errands. I was consumed with grief, yet no one had any idea. How many people do we run into during our day who are dealing with some sort of significant loss? How many people may be ill (with depression for example,like my son)? It’s made me much more compassionate and understanding of people who may be having a bad time of it. (Or they may just be jerks!) I tend to give people the benefit of doubt.</p>
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<p>I mean this very gently and kindly but is there a chance that maybe that’s what your brother would want for his children? For them to enjoy life even though he couldn’t? I’m sure they have their own pain and it seems a terrible shame that you are not in each others lives anymore. </p>
<p>I wish you peace.</p>
<p>heavyheart, I cannot imagine your pain and I wish for you peace as well. Thank you for sharing your powerful story and journey.</p>
<p>Ias just thinking of you the other day as someone posted about Anderson Cooper and i mentioned his brother had died. I know this is awful for you and want you to know your cyber friends are thinking of you.</p>
<p>I’m so so so sorry for your loss.</p>
<p>I’m thinking of you, HeavyHeart, and sending thoughts of strength and peace. Grief comes in waves, some tiny, some tsunami, and it isn’t easy.</p>
<p>Compassionate Friends group.</p>