Just a note, OP has mentioned her DD is not going to be a star, as she’s not even started a softball career and hasn’t broken through in VB yet. Advice about D1 programs or college varsity roles might be more valuable to others than her.
But I’d echo @twoinanddone in pointing out that there are a lot of levels of play, from D1 powerhouses to D3 1-18 cellar-dwellers to intramural leagues, so just about anyone can find a game if they want to play later in life. Keep it loose, survive high school with good memories and don’t get too hung up on perfect solutions. Sports are supposed to be fun.