I use a small scissor to cut these sausage packages.
Mrs. Mags grew up in a house with a father who yelled. My parents were talkers and never yelled; people yelling always bothers me. I did not know until several years into our marriage that she is also a yeller (with a NJ accent, the worst kind). I still hate it but have learned to deal with her. Actual tweet from our oldest from last year: “Anyone who thought I was looking forward to being home for Christmas has never met my mother.” Her being such a bulldog has benefited the family many times but she does not realize how angry sounding she can be. In my next life, I’m marrying more of a sweetheart.
She got involved in a pointless lawsuit, despite my objections and the advice of counsel, that took three years and cost us many thousands of dollars. It would have been cheaper and less stress to hire a hit man (just kidding, NSA, we would never do that).
All in all, we have a great marriage and really enjoy each others company.
I would prefer a “yeller” to the passive aggressive type that channels their anger in more insidious ways. Yellers usually get it out and are done with it. I am good with that.
Although I do not like being yelled at and will communicate that sentiment.
My newest peeve is google maps. DH uses a stand alone gps unit and has me pull up google maps on my phone and then turns on some mapping program on his phone. All to go somewhere where we have been before. I think the engineer in him wants to see how the programs are alike and different. I just want to start the car and go.
Remember the car spats before GPS? My H used to hand me a folded up map of of the US 3 blocks before a turn, and ask me if he turns right or left.
@nottelling I might ‘baby’ something more than necessary, but why take a chance that the hard plastic would damage the knife? The Braunsweiger package was already open (and agree, I use a scissors - that kitchen scissors gets used every day and has a spot in my knife block). When I showed him to just slide the package down, it set him off (in hindsight I know part of the problem was his headache that I was not aware of). With hard sausage, after the plastic is open, I have a cut in the plastic the length of the sausage, and peel back the plastic. Why cut through it if it can possibly dull the knife?
I wouldn’t trade H for another, but I also do try to not rock the boat. Yesterday morning, I thought “Holy Shit - is this what I am going to be in for the rest of the day/night on our day trip”, but he was good - I did all the driving; he snoozed but also conversed.
Venting on CC has soothed me 
I know I am not alone in many issues.
My husband gets in a bad mood and when I notice it, especially in a long drive, I told him to put on his favorite guitar music, it sounds like beach waves, immediately stress relief and his mood seems to change. Find out what works for your spouse. But I’m pretty straight forward and I will tell him off, I don’t worry because his mom was exactly like me, maybe people do marry to people whose personality they are comfortable with or familiar, and his dad was also a GEM. I think it’s important to pick FIL too because that’s where the husband model his behavior after.
FIL is the weak link. H and his 3 brothers are all better people. H likes my good traits, but I am not the door mat his mother sometimes is… Funny, how I first met H’s parents, I liked his dad (talkative, jovial) and his mom was super quiet. My first impression was the opposite of my thinking once I have been ‘up close and personal’. FIL is a very needy individual. MIL has made many more sacrifices than I would, worked way harder while FIL was rather lazy and not motivated to seek out decent wages; MIL sucked up more than I would have, etc.
You can get your knives sharpened…
Knives - I have no idea about getting the serrated ones sharpened. Or the cost, if it is higher for those. H is able to sharpen our other ones.
No, you can’t get the serrated ones sharpened. It wears down the – serrations, I guess they’re called.
Now that this thread has over 200 posts, two of my husbands irritating habits have been covered, and still I feel the need to vent! He’s another one that will rinse out his plate and leave it in the sink instead of putting it in the dishwasher. I guess it’s good that he at least clears his own place but it bothers me because for at least two dozen years I told him it bothered me. I gave up a while back and now load up the dishwasher myself. The other previously mentioned habit is the clear-the-car. We own probably 15 umbrellas because he refuses to let one ride in the car so when we’re caught away from home in the rain, we’ll buy another one.
One small peeve is how my husband behaves when he’s sick and it probably just bothers me because it’s different then when I’m sick. When I’m sick I generally just want soup and to be left alone. I also want to sleep alone since I’m a light sleeper so I’ll go into one of our kids rooms (we’re empty nesters, so have a few to choose from!) and get a good nights sleep there. My husband however will choose to stay in our bed, wiggle around all night and then neither of us gets a good nights sleep. I know I could leave the room, but I usually go to bed first so feel he should pick another room. Also, when he has a cold he will still go to work. I hate it when my co-workers come in sick so I will stay home and recover. After 10 years with the same job I’ve used about 7 sick days, so it’s not like it’s often, but he’s probably missed 5 days in 20 years.
Mine chews with mouth open too and I have stopped buying sucky sweets as the noise he makes when sucking drives me to distraction. We both speak loudly so it would be pot calling the kettle black but what annoys me is that he will be on a call in the car as he drives up to the house and will walk in still talking. I would really like it if he would stay in the car to finish his call rather than walking in talking loudly. This is more noticeable now that we are empty nesters and the house has been silent the whole day…until it’s not!
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We own probably 15 umbrellas because he refuses to let one ride in the car
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if your seat has any space underneath, then buy one of those really small ones and hide it underneath.
Or the trunk, or your purse.
At least he rinses it. Do you know what it’s like to wash dishes that have been left on a counter over night without rinsing. With things like melted cheese or egg?
So many complaints about dishes… I don’t understand - why?. It does not break my back to put the dirty dishes into the dishwasher… regardless of who dirtied them. IMO, if something takes a couple of minutes of my time, it is so not worth picking a fight over. My neurons are priceless and do not regenerate.
*Never shuts cupboard doors, kitchen drawers, pantry door
*Never shuts off lights, usually says “I’m not finished there” when its obvious he is
*Clicks his teeth when eating
*Drops food on the coffee table and doesn’t clean it up when he takes his plate away
*Doesn’t wipe his feet coming into the house or if he gets the look, uses the indoor “door” carpet
*Opens up a set dishwasher and doesn’t reset it to wash overnight
*Bangs things around in the morning, including his dresser drawers, an hour before I need to get up
*Smokes cigars at outdoor parties without any consideration of others (WTH?)
*Thinks appetizers at restaurants are not for sharing, he always wants his own
*When I’m driving (which is usually) I have to ask him to get out and pump the gas
*AND…piles his plate high regardless of how many people/how much food available (again, WTH?)
I could go on and on but I’ll give someone else a chance LOL. I hope his list about me isn’t quite as long.
Braunschweiger!?
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*AND…piles his plate high regardless of how many people/how much food available (again, WTH?)
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What does he say when you comment on this ^^ ?
When I see this happen at various functions, I wonder if their parents never taught them to look around and consider how many people are there and how much food there is.
I had a high school boyfriend whose parents always insisted that girls serve themselves first, because the boys might otherwise pig-out and leave the girls starving. lol It made the boys aware that others also needed to eat. 