In this area (PA & NJ), in terms of terms of nurturing and close-knit and your “excellent community feel” paragraph, Blair, George and Mercersberg are great. Blair especially so, which is a big reason we chose it. In New England, NMH and Concord and maybe Putney (I cannot recall) use first names for everyone and are also quite supportive and not high pressure. I agree that St. Pauls did not seem to be on the nurturing end of the spectrum.