“My DH & I were married for several years before we had kids, so I lived through LOTS of questions about “When are you going to have children?” My mom one time said to me flat out that she thought it was SELFISH for people to NOT have children.”
At least it was your own mom saying this so you could tell her to keep it to herself. My in-laws were the ones who constantly needled me about having kids. We were married for 10 years (so funny to see another poster also waited that long, don’t see that often!) before we had kids and for the first 5 years of marriage when we’d have kids was the #1 thing either of my in-laws talked about; that, and how it was the “natural order” for women to care for the children and “keep the home”. I had a fantastic, high powered corporate career at the time which they refused to acknowledge or understand. (And these were not stupid people, my MIL speaks 3 languages.) If they ever mentioned my employment at all, they’d describe me as a secretary.