Student in the Parent's cafe - etiquette?

[thisyearsgirl]

<p>I hope I won’t have to take back what I said about the (relative) lack of flame wars in this forum. :o</p>

[momof3sons]

<p>2331clk,
I absolutely remember “Mr. TTT” from the PR board! As to his screename, no way, no how, can I possibly pull that from the moldy,middle-aged, forgetful back of my brain.</p>

[FountainSiren]

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I started out writing something really, really mean to FountainSiren, then I deleted it, then I rewrote it, then I edited it, and it was still kind of mean, so I edited it some more, and by the time I was finished, I’d taken all the good stuff out. But if I didn’t know FountainSiren was a student, well… the first draft had some really good bile and vitriol, believe me. (Well, more like snarky waspishness, but really clever with some big words and everything.)

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<p>Kluge,
All that…for me…who knew you cared so?
Wow!..well, gee…thanks for all the effort. That was sweet</p>

[driver]

<p>I’d just like to say: although Kluge and I don’t generally play well together, I think I misinterpreted the conversation and delivered some undeserved snark his way…for which I apologize.</p>

[kluge]

<p>So now you have to go all civilized on me, leaving me to hang out to dry as the only mean guy here?!?! How can we keep the flames going if you’re going to be all reasonable? Driver - I’ve failed to give you enough credit. You are good. I mean evil. I mean… see - you’ve got me all flustered.</p>

<p>I guess it’s the holi - I mean, Christmas, spirit. We can all take the gloves off again next month… For now - Kumbaya, anyone? :)</p>

[driver]

<p>I was visited last night by the ghost of my former partner, Jacob Snarkly. Old Snarkly was dead as a doornail. This must be distinctly understood or nothing wonderful can come of the story I am going to relate…</p>

[momrath]

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@2331clk

A few years ago there was a student poster, I guess it was on Princeton Review, who constantly caused trouble on the parent forums. He used to talk about his “fine ivy” and being at a top 5 law school. Everything else was a ttt (third tier toilet, a horrible expression I thankfully don’t hear here). There were threads devoted to trying to out him…anyone else remember him and what his screenname was?

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<p>Oh my, It was “Hope this Helps” or HTH. I still cringe when I see that phrase. I entered the on-line college search universe on PR and man oh man was it painful. No matter how vitriolic this board gets (and we all have our hot button pushers) it doesn’t come close to the pain inflicted by that charlatan.</p>

[TheDad]

<p>On the contrary, FountainSiren, my post wasn’t about those respond to you with wit and humor, it was about your expectation that people do so. You make a sustained series of posts in support of homophobic bigotry and when you get called on it, claim you’re not a bigot, cite examples of horrible things you’ve suffered and are against, and then cry “victim.” I’m not buying and I won’t let you get away with it just because you’re 17.</p>

<p>The examples you cite are analagous to someone who Jewish citing relatives lost in the Holocaust as reason that can’t be bigoted even if they tolerate nasty attitudes towards schwarzers. Funny, you claim to fight for the underdog and yet are ready to sustain prejudice against gays because someone “isn’t comfortable.” You don’t like the word “bigot”? Good. I suggest you get used to it.</p>

<p>Here’s another word for you. Someone who is obnoxious, provocative, and inflammatory and yet doesn’t expect to get hit back = “bully.” </p>

<p>If your posts were that of my daughter, I wouldn’t dream of editing them for her. However, the one thing I would tell her is, “Be prepared to get hit.” Your age does not excuse your posts and the sustained pattern constitutes, in my book, a waiver to any immunity with which you thought you might be indulged.</p>

<p>You’re clearly bright, articulate, clever, and in command of rhetorical tactics. You’re also passive-aggressive [post #38 is brilliant], manipulative, willfully obtuse and you know exactly what you’re doing…as one would expect of anyone bright enough to attend Dartmouth. It will be interesting to see how your arrogance ferments as you mature.</p>

<p>Kluge, I edit too. But I won’t shy away just because of a poster’s age.</p>

<p>:::This post has been made with 100-percent acid-free phosphors.</p>

[atomom]

<p>Nothing but Sprite for the kids–in case they spill on the carpet.</p>

[FountainSiren]

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On the contrary, FountainSiren, my post wasn’t about those respond to you with wit and humor, it was about your expectation that people do so.

I do not, as a rule, expect people to post, either in content or style, one way or another. I prefer wit, wisdom and humor, as I said,

I prefer to be addressed with wit, wisdom and humor, and I hope to offer the same.

But really, doesn’t everyone? Even…Thedad?</p>

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You make a sustained series of posts in support of homophobic bigotry

If, in your zealous world, it is “homophobic bigotry” for someone like myself to say that they would welcome having a gay roommate (in the next 4 years, I’d say it’s pretty likely), while at the same time acknowledging that some other girl, having suffered some sexual trauma in high school—date-rape, rape, sexual assault etc,–should not have to be stigmatized for not wanting to room in a potential sexual atmosphere-- whether in her own mind or in reality (as I said)–then you need to find another term for actual bigots as the one you currently use is all played out. I’m content in knowing that my feelings inthis are rooted in compassion, not hatred (which, it should be said, is the operative cause of bigotry…be careful). </p>

<p>Anyhow, as I said: I could be wrong; to me, that is a hesitant and apprehensive confession that I whole-heartedly embrace…and yet, it must be difficult for you: because you appear to believe that you can never be wrong. I suppose that is why you feel free to use such hateful invective; that is, you come by it honestly—you must be right, and wrong is your deadly enemy…ready, aim, fire!! Still, IMHO, you do no favors for those for whom you have made yourself champion (blasting away on your canon when precision and accuracy are better suited to a delicate world of complex people)…though, you clearly enjoy your sport, such as it is.</p>

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Someone who is obnoxious, provocative, and inflammatory and yet doesn’t expect to get hit back

Even if what you say is true (I’d like to think it isn’t, but it is not for me to say), I can’t recall asking not “to get hit back.” If you mean that I prefer not having hateful epithets used against me, I would think that this makes me pretty common and dull, and I have no problem accepting that.</p>

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[post #38 is brilliant],

If only I’d written it! However, I do agree that the writer of post #38, Driver, is a brilliant writer. I second your opinion. I only wish I could write as well as her…I try.</p>

<p>TD, you are also a very good writer, and without the rash judgment and the constant and cruel retorts I believe you would be a great writer…I can only imagine.</p>

<p>Well,
Happy Holidays to you and your’s.
To the Themom, Thedaughter and any other little dads their may be out there, have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.</p>

<p>Peace and Goodwill,
God Bless,
Emily</p>

[TheDad]

<p>Late night error: post #36, not #38. </p>

<p>Hateful epithets: bigot? bully? Blunt, not hateful. If you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. </p>

<p>And you’re being disingenuous, as is your wont: you don’t say “don’t hit back,” you accuse people of “being mean”, cite you age, plead for sympathy on irrelevant grounds, cry “hateful epithets,” in an effort to secure immunity by claiming victim status. I’d give you an “A” in rhetoric, for you’re far more competent than most adults.</p>