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<p>And hospital billing errors. My D and I were in hospital 2 days for a regular birth
from 11/10/85 until 11/12. We got a whopping large bill because our dates were typed 10/11/85 - 11/12/85, so a stay of a month and two days. H called it in and someone said, “but it wouldn’t have affected you, the insurance would have paid it.” Obviously not so. Everything has an “effect” somewhere along the line.</p>

<p>I think LTS’s issues with the system are much greater than clerical errors; am just providing some entertainment here on her site. LTS, shall we get back to topic in a way closer to your heart? You’ve been venting for the need to change the system several posts now (politics). At the same time, your illness may have opened you up to the community of others who want to help (spiritual). How can we best help? Heck, we can talk about ANYTHING 'round here. :)</p>

<p>If this works for you, to clarify values (a teaching technique): LTS, suppose you had $500. to donate to a cause. Would you send it to:
a) a political candidate with health care reform legislation;<br>
b) an organization that cares for people 1:1
c) cancer research foundation
d) other</p>

<p>This isn’t the SAT’s and you have all the time you need to answer. Or tell me to drop it in so many words. I’m just trying to keep your thread as helpful to your healing as possible by talking about whatever you want to talk about.</p>

<p>d) p3t, we contribute to a local organization that sends medical vans out into poor and immigrant communities to provide basic health care to the homeless and folks who don’t have coverage. $500 means a LOT to them.</p>

<p>I also send contributions to CaringBridge, which offers free websites/blogs to folks dealing with life-threatening illnesses. The outpouring of support on those sites is incredible. People share the names of doctors, treatments, tips for dealing with insurance, offer food, house-cleaning – you name it.</p>

<p>I’ve always had a preference for groups that do grass-roots level work in the community. </p>

<p>I have mentioned online friends’ names in public MiSheibeirach services, and folks always ask “is someone in your family ill?” Well, yes. My extended family of cancer warriors. It’s ironic – I go up all the time to pray for folks, but my DH and kids have never gone up. Not once. DH will squeeze my hand, and the guys will often put an arm around me during the prayer, but it’s just too *%$# hard to go up and say my name.</p>

<p>So I’m just feeling that we need to do more than yet another cyber hug because it’s just not cutting it. So I wondered to myself " wow, if everybody who looks at this thread just donated $1 to lung cancer research there would be $18,000 in the pot already. LTS would feel like she helped make a small step and I would feel better too." Then I thought that that was probably against CC rules but… what the heck…so that’s my thoughts for the night and my action for the morning- a donation in the name of LTS. Join me, won’t you?</p>

<p>sax: What a great idea! Reminds me of that horrible old TV ad: Money talks, nobody walks. Let’s cross the cyber boundary. I’m in.</p>

<p>excellent.</p>

<p>Good plan. Can we figure out who is working on LUNG cancer?</p>

<p><a href=“http://lchelp.org/[/url]”>http://lchelp.org/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>There’s a link to at least one organization working on lung cancer that accepts donations on that page.</p>

<p>Great idea! How about Lung Cancer Alliance? <a href=“http://www.lungcanceralliance.org/involved/donate.html[/url]”>http://www.lungcanceralliance.org/involved/donate.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>ideally let’s wait and see what LTS wants us to do, so many choices from grassroots to medical research. I’d like to see if she wants to suggest a direction for all this goodheartedness. Plus the moderators will need to decide what’s proper. Maybe she can just discuss it in general terms, what her wishes would be, rather than to designate a destination by website. I recognize we all want to respect TOS.</p>

<p>Great idea, sax! I’m in, as soon as a recipient organization is identified.</p>

<p>Concur…</p>

<p>tippity tap tap, wondering how LTS is doing today, hopefully she’ll check in when she can</p>

<p>she’s probably on a conference call with pepople in 5 different countries while typing up a business plan and simultaneously thinking up ways to fix our health care system…</p>

<p>LTS, Just saw this thread. My sincere admiration for your courage and my prayers are with you.</p>

<p>From your post that you have received radiation, I would surmise that your sclc is still at the “limited stage”, a stage for which long term remission is still possible. I guess you know all that already.</p>

<p>latetoschool, I hope you were able to find a few moments of beauty and peace today.</p>

<p>Oh - I am here, just a very long day, I started to write a post three hours ago and have been on the phone ever since. Padad, unfortunately I am classified at the extensive stage, however, long term remission is still possible, but, getting there is going to be one extraordinary fight, as the statics are grim. This requires quite a battle, and so a very ferocious battle we shall have. I am very, very grateful for prayers. I will need every one of them and this will not go well without God’s help.</p>

<p>I am gratified for the thoughtfulness of so many and am surprised and almost overcome by the desire to give money to this cause. I have a few thoughts, not necessarily valid or accurate, but, here is what I think:</p>

<p>If I had $500 to donate, I would give it to an organization who helps people directly. I am now 30 days into this diagnosis, and still lack the knowledge to be able to say if donations to support research for lung cancer will be of much help, but I suspect it will not help and might even be a waste of money AT THIS POINT; here’s why: first, even if the research dollars were plentiful, the brain trust, the brilliant scientists, the relentless researchers would need to actually do the work, and apply their minds to the problem. </p>

<p>I don’t see that happening. I don’t see it happening primarily because lung cancer doesn’t “sell”. It doesn’t market well. It’s not a career builder. It’s not like breast cancer, or some of the cancers that afflict young children. It doesn’t have pink ribbons, awareness months, 5 K runs for the cure, etc. And overwhelmingly, small cell in particular is - according to everything I’ve read - self inflicted. Yes, there are people who get this who do not smoke cigarettes. I’m one of them. But the overwhelming majority who do get this have smoked at some time in their lives. And - I wonder if you can imagine this - I just got off the telephone with a long term survivor of this (11 years, very unusual) - and - she STILL SMOKES. She did quit for a year or two but then went back to smoking cigarettes. She wasn’t even embarrassed to tell me that she still smokes. So this isn’t a cancer that wins a lot of sympathy. How anyone could possibly come through lung cancer and get into remission and then smoke cigarettes is just simply incomprehensible to me. So is it reasonable to hope and expect that highly paid, brilliant researchers and those on the forefront of finding cures to spend their life’s work on something that the majority of inflicted do to themselves? </p>

<p>The reality is, if people would stop smoking cigarettes, small cell lung cancer would mostly go away, according to all of the literature I’ve read. There would still be a very small number of cases of nonsmokers being diagnosed with small cell lung cancer, but, those persons would then be sort of in a category like my DEA friend’s daughter: in a cancer population where the numbers are so low that it’s not profitable enough for big pharma or researchers to bother with doing anything about it. Their time is far more productively spent trying to find solutions for cancers that kill larger populations of people. And I am sure it is more rewarding for them as well. </p>

<p>So I am not sure that donating money for research is going to help. I am not sure what to suggest and I simply do not know enough right now to offer any intelligent suggestions. </p>

<p>I do think though that God ultimately has this in His hands. I am very grateful for prayer and very deeply, sincerely thankful for all who have reached out to me and if I have any request at all to make of anyone here it is for continued prayers.</p>

<p>sax, the view count isn’t for every individual who has viewed the thread, but how many times. Some people would probably be down $100 or more! Not saying it isn’t a good idea, but it would require more than a $1 per person to reach $18k.</p>

<p>Oh sax, I feel the same way. The hugs are not enough. I like your idea, and I also thought there was an opportunity to combine the interests of Latetoschool and the CC community. </p>

<p>Latetoschool, I’m really moved by your personal story and your ambition. Perhaps we could start a CC scholarship fund for first generation college students along the lines of “First to school.” It would be a wonderful way to further your academic ambitions and expand your reach while you focus on getting well. </p>

<p>Latetoschool, with permission from the mods, is there some heavy lifting the CC community can do?</p>

<p>LateToSchool: Just as Christopher Reeve did for his disease, his brave wife did for yours. (I knew them slightly because of a research project D and two of her friends did for Toshiba science project.) After her illness I think a lot of people are aware of the fact that non-smokers get this disease as well. And if everybody stopped smoking, I believe, despite the statistics, that there would still be significant cases of this disease.</p>

<p>It’s so sad that we think we can judge victims. No one “does this to themselves.” If cigarette companies get people, they are victims too. </p>

<p>My husband’s “healer” yoga teacher said AIDs was easier to cure if the person was not a homosexual. That disgusted me, and I never consulted her again.</p>

<p>Perhaps we could come up with a ribbon for all lung disease, including cancer, emphezema, COPD, asthma, bronchitis, and some of these do afflict children.</p>

<p>We want to put our money where you want it to show you how important your recovery is to us, but I also want to say that any cancer sufferer is worthy of support, research and funds. It’s just our job to convince the scientists of this.</p>

<p>I will certainly keep you in my thoughts and prayers.</p>

<p>An organization that does a great deal for those living with cancer of any flavor is the Lance Armstrong Foundation. Check out their website at <a href=“http://www.livestrong.org%5B/url%5D”>www.livestrong.org</a></p>

<p>My husband has done fundraising for them for many years now.</p>

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