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<p>Then go. :)</p>
<p>Trust yourself: accept the date. </p>
<p>Trust yourself also about your health: you’ll know if/when to discuss it with him.</p>
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<p>An aside: So I am so moved by mootmoms/sluggbuggs beautiful and inspiring garden that I have to share it with somebody and I decide to tell my engineer H. </p>
<p>" Well, I’m online with a bunch of people from all over the world…no, I don’t know them…they have made up names…and LTS, a beautiful and inspiring woman is in the battle of her life…and her friends, mootmom and sluggbugg…no, her on line friends…no, she has never met them…built her a beautiful, wonderous garden…no, no not actually a real garden…they built the garden in Second Life…it’s a pretend world…"</p>
<p>Vacant stare</p>
<p>“never mind”</p>
<p>LOL, sax!! :D</p>
<p>Sax…<br>
that is so funny and too true…</p>
<p>years ago, I went on a 3 day business trip to Florida…and took Anne Rice’s first Vampire book… and was mesmerized…read the entire thing and was really obsessed with what she had created…the religious undertones etc…</p>
<p>well, while I headed south…my DH headed downeast for a client meeting and the only music he could get on the car radio was country music. </p>
<p>when we each returned home, I was talking Vampires 24/7 and he was quoting country music advice… </p>
<p>it was like each of us had experienced a different type of possession… “who are you and what have you done with my spouse” reactions!! </p>
<p>my real life friends have not yet found anything specifically compelling on-line that is comparable to CC… at least not anything that anyone has admitted to at this point in time…</p>
<p>Well, neither have I (found anything as compelling as college confidential.) The people I have met here are generous, funny and so very bright.</p>
<p>And now we have a virtual garden to congregate in.</p>
<p>Why worry about your wig on a date? For all you know, he’s wearing a toupee!</p>
<p>^^^ LOL, P3T. So true!!!</p>
<p>Just go and enjoy yourself, LTS!</p>
<p>Oh, goodness, definitely accept the date LTS! That one is a no-brainer! Take a break, have fun, and if you hit it off, talk about the “C” word then.</p>
<p>Another vote for heading out with that very interested man. </p>
<p>sax, you are married to my husband, except that I would not tell him about the CC world! When a CCer enters my real life, she is identified to my husband as “an old friend” - details left vague.</p>
<p>And LTS: As you’ve said yourself, none of us knows what the future brings. And you are more active than a lot of us here. Hope you say yes.</p>
<p>good lord, lts,</p>
<p>My hubby of 30 years would hardly notice if my head fell off, much less my hair. You go for it girlfriend!</p>
<p>^^^ LOL, bethie! Years ago a good friend of mine had breast cancer but didn’t tell anyone when she started to wear a wig after chemo. I am a very visual person and in hindsight it should have been obvious that this was a wig (which was nothing like her own hair in texture OR style). None of her friends had a clue at the time. I agree with everyone here - go on the date!</p>
<p>A long time friend came for a visit looking slightly different, but I could not figure out what it was. I then realized that it looked like she had a wig on, but it was really the case that she had let her permanent grow out, and she no longer had the very curly hair I was used to seeing. I did not tell her I thought it was a wig, I just asked what was different about what she was doing. So if I could not tell one way or the other until I REALLY thought about it, chances are he will be totally clueless.</p>
<p>Gorgeous colleague wears wig though has never had chemo. She is the only one of us who never has a bad hair day. She lost some hair from stress and started wearing it, and when her hair grew out, she realized she loved it! It’s the chin length China-doll look but stunning auburn. My hair could never look like that.</p>
<p>bethie beat me to it, I was going to say that about my husband… if I wore something low cut I could shave my head and he wouldn’t notice. True story: I had braces at age 40 for 18 months and he didn’t notice for over 24 HOURS when they were removed… a friend noticed in his presence befpre he noticed. What a doofus. It was hilarious.</p>
<p>Listen to all the moms & dads coaching you to go for it & go for it. He’s lucky to get a date with you. :)</p>
<p>Hmmmmm . . . I don’t usually feel comfortable giving on-line advice of this sort, but, hey, this one seems like a no-brainer: Go!</p>
<p>And I say this not because I’m sure that he wouldn’t notice that you were wearing a wig - maybe he would, maybe he wouldn’t. But even if he did, so what? If he did, that might just mean that you’d wind up having a conversation about your current health issues a little earlier than you had planned. And if that happened, what would be so bad about that? </p>
<p>The worst-case scenario here would seem to be that you’d wind up having this conversation a little earlier than planned and you found out, one way or another, that this guy was somehow put off by the fact that you have cancer. In that case, you’d have to ask yourself a question, I think: Is this someone I even would have wanted to spend more time with - someone who couldn’t see past that??? </p>
<p>Actually, though, that’s not the “worst-case scenario.” The worst-case scenario would be this: Not taking him up on his offer and then sitting at home stewing about it, day after day, wondering how things might have gone.</p>
<p>epistrophy is right!!!</p>
<p>Seize this day.</p>
<p>bethievt, I had been wearing bangs for the first time in our married life. I had had them for 6 weeks when we got ready to go to dinner and a symohony. I was all dressed up and ready to go, and my husband looked at my hair and said, “Are you doing that on purpose?”</p>
<p>LTS, Go for the joy.</p>