Yes. And I had to look up the model for how to reply correctly in a book. Because there was no internet.
@Consolation, does your local county fair hold a table setting contest? Sounds like something you would enjoy viewing (and perhaps competing in?).
I do indeed have personalized Crane’s stationery, but no plate. 
Making your guests wait for refreshment for any reason is inconsiderate, rom828, I suppose it was because they were having one of those elaborate photoshoots.
@oneofthosemoms, no, I’ve never heard of that! I did win third prize in the apple pie contest one year, and many ribbons for jams, jellies, and such.
If we extend it to bar / bat mitzvahs, I think a casino / gambling theme, or a shopping theme, is pretty vulgar. No problem with themes that represent the child’s hobbies or interests (sports, music, etc.).
Ah, PG, we had a computer theme, from the invitations, to the place settings (favorite game figures), CD case, and chocolate laptops.
I know as a MOG, I have to take a back seat, but it sure was fun doing the Bar Mitzvah. I will host a local affair for my friends who won’t travel (which is all of them).
Wedding couples who neglect to write thank you notes in a timely fashion or, worse, who don’t do it at all.
I still have informals from my wedding. MIL got them for us and insisted on using my given first name, not the nickname everyone has called me by from birth. I haven’t used them since the wedding thank you’s.
I agree about tacky/inappropriate bar/bar mitzvah themes. Both my sons had sports themes, but they went to at least one with a gambling theme.
Just went to a wedding with both the bouquet toss and risque garter retrieval. Fortunately, the guy who caught the garter didn’t put it on the 10 year old who caught the bouquet.
S and DIL paid for and planned their own wedding. They sent nice paper invitations, but requested that guests RSVP online. Call me old-fashioned, but I found that tacky. That request was on the back of the invitation and some of the guests missed it or thought a reply card was missing from the envelope. I know some of you will disagree with me finding that tacky.
@pizzagirl…pray tell…what did a shopping theme consist of? I cannot imagine.
I went to a wedding back in the early 80s where both the bride and groom were members of the Young Republican club at college. The wedding was extremely tasteful right up until the reception when during a photo session , the groomsmen all dropped their pants to show off their matching red, white and blue GOP elephant boxer shorts. @-)
My brother in law’s brother had an altar call at his wedding. “The best gift you can give C and T is to be saved on their special day”.
We were at a reception where the bridesmaids were very drunk. The song Mony, Mony came on and they shouted at the top of their lungs, " Get laid, get f***! I was very embarrassed sitting next to the grandmothers and great aunts.
If displaying gifts hadn’t been such a well-established custom, we wouldn’t have had that great number from “High Society,” where Frank Sinatra and Celeste Holm inspect all Grace Kelly’s wedding gifts. For a second wedding, no less! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YG6UllZwj9c
Here’s a clip of gifts on display for Elizabeth’s and Philip’s wedding in 1947: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GgFJkiIQdrs Not that they probably really needed anything …
For a more middle-class bride, there was the montage in the original “Father of the Bride” with Elizabeth Taylor and Spencer Tracy, showing the gifts gradually taking over more and more living space. I can’t remember if there was a similar scene in the Steve Martin remake. I’m guessing not?
ok; not really tacky, but we just felt slightly dismayed at this one: a step-niece was getting married 3 hours away. My youngest had already chosen her new dress and we were excited. The invitation arrived and it was for “couples only” so they could have “date nights” – no kids. On one hand, we get that – on the other hand our kids felt slightly jilted. I had never heard of a no-kids wedding before; even including teens.
@onward Your post reminded me of a situation at my cousin’s wedding when the groomsman requested “Cocaine” , and we quickly shuffled the MOG outside.
@bgbg4us we had a no kids wedding also. Our wedding was very small so we invited NONE of the cousins…NONE. Parents only…and we didn’t think it was tacky…at all.
I attended a wedding reception where the bride entered into the ballroom on a horse (with the groom walking by its side) and she herself was dressed in a royal blue dress(gown) and wore a crown to look like Cinderella. . Basically dad gave her whatever she asked for in her life except a pony so that is what she got for the wedding reception. Dad said it couldn’t be just any horse. It had to be Taylor Swift’s horse that she actually rode in a music video.
30 years ago this month a family member didn’t allow children at her wedding and we still fuss about it almost every annual family reunion. And then we pull out the group photos of the event, where we all brought our babies out of the nursery/ babysitting service she’d arranged, and had them be part of the family shots. One of mine is trying to eat her veil. I’m about to send his sailor suit to my pregnant daughter-in-law.
We attended a relative’s wedding at a venue that included a chapel at one end and a large space for a reception at the other. The officiant welcomed everyone to the ceremony: “I’m Pastor Jones and I’m the owner of this church.”
During the reception, there was a contest to see if the bride or groom could collect more money from dance partners.
When the bride and groom were ready to leave at the end of the evening, we were all invited outside to wave goodbye as they walked to the limousine. When we went back inside 10 minutes later, all the tables were completely cleared, tablecloths and all. I had left an almost full glass of wine on the table and was very disappointed!
@bgbg4us No children weddings are becoming more popular as weddings become more expensive . I have several friends who have had them.
We had a no kids wedding. I don’t find that tacky. I have been to ones where a baby is screaming during the vows…