<p>I’m not sure how you have come to this conclusion. It seems to me that there was a definite point to the meeting. The Dean wanted to make it clear to your daughter that she is to have no further contact with her ex.</p>
<p>The problem here is that your daughter has no idea (or possibly does not want to admit) what has occurred to give the Dean the notion that he needed to be involved in this situation, or why he feels it is imperative that the D stop all contact with the ex. We can all speculate about what happened, but without the ex boyfriend’s side of the story and further input from the Dean, that’s all it would be-mere speculation.</p>
<p>I have trouble believing that a dean would go through the trouble of calling your D in for a meeting that has no “obvious point” at all. If my D told me this, I would tell her that there must be something she is not telling me and I can’t help her if she doesn’t tell me everything. I wouldn’t call the dean yet. I would talk further with my D and assure her that I’ve been through my share of painful relationships and that I am on her side. However, it makes it very difficult to help her if I don’t know all the facts.</p>
<p>If it was my D I would want to try to get more info from her. The part about the emails seems odd to me in that teens just don’t email much anymore. They communicate via text messages. It just doesn’t ring true and I would wonder why she was saying that. The fact that the Dean didn’t respond to that statement but just reiterated his direction to cut off contact with Joe, sounds to me like he wasn’t buying it either.</p>
<p>I would want to know if my D was displaying any troubling behavior that might indicate that she is still struggling with the break up.</p>
<p>Of course, she didn’t have to call mom and tell her about the meeting in the first place so that speaks well for her.</p>