<p>Sheera, the rule would be the same. My rules don’t really change just because someone breaks them. What other measures might I take? Not sure. Depends on the kid, the age, the situation. But the rule would be the same.</p>
<p>Funny–today’s Luann comic strip has Luann in locked bedroom with Aussie “BF,” and upset mom knocking on door.</p>
<p>[Luann</a> Comic Strip, June 20, 2013 on GoComics.com](<a href=“http://www.gocomics.com/luann/2013/06/20]Luann”>Luann by Greg Evans and Karen Evans for June 20, 2013 - GoComics)</p>
<p>Its a good idea to have a lock. I had a removable lock, but didn’t always use it.
My bf stayed with me at my moms house for several months ( while we were looking for our own place) and my teenage brother walked in on us without knocking.
Ewww. :mad:</p>
<p>There are locks on all the bedrooms of our house (which can easily be opened from the outside with a screwdriver if needed). I would be unhappy if either of my unmarried kids locked me out of the room which they occupied with someone else. </p>
<p>It’s my house, my rules. It’s pretty moot at this time, since neither kid has ever locked the door while someone else was in their bedroom.</p>
<p>Your brother should never have barged in without being given permission to enter. A closed door means that one should knock and get permission before entering.</p>
<p>My brother was excited because my mom had just hit my brand new car that was in the driveway and must have been running late because then she continued on.
( we had a long driveway which then turned into Lshape carport- she probably didn’t even look)
It was quite a dent too- 
He learned to knock after that.</p>
<p>I never had a lock on my door that i remember but I rarely closed my door. We always had an open house. I didn’t have any rules so I had nothing to hide. Even if I wanted to, my room was right next to my parents and we had thin walls.</p>
<p>Growing up in my parents’ house, a lock on a door meant something was going on that should be hidden. i.e. bathroom, parents’ bedroom - you get the idea. So locks on children’s bedroom doors were not allowed.</p>
<p>I got an exception when I was 16 BECAUSE my little brother went in my room, destroyed my posters and my albums and put quarters between all the keys of my piano. I had to lobby for the lock and won with the agreement being that when I was home the door would be left unlocked. Little *@#$!!!</p>
<p>Since my girls were all closer in age, we really never had that issue. No locks on bedrooms.</p>
<p>We were not allowed to have locks on bedroom doors. My parents didn’t have one either until my older sister was a teenager and was caught stealing from my mother’s purse. We knocked on our parents door, but nobody knocked on ours-- they just came right in. For a long time my sister didn’t have a door at all as a punishment for something or other. It had nothing to do with BFs, as my parents didn’t allow any boys upstairs until recently. </p>
<p>The summer before last I was 22 years old and my parents went on vacation for three months and left my sister and I alone in the house while they were gone, and my sister was behaving threateningly so I took the liberty of installing a lock anyway-- a nice one that required a real key, like for an outside door. I gave my mom a key when she got back. She didn’t mind anymore by then I guess. I saved the old door knob in case I had to put it back on for them when they got back.</p>
<p>We don’t have locks on our bedroom doors. I have always knocked on my Ds’ doors before entering, and I expect the same. I think that is just common courtesy.</p>
<p>I don’t think I’ve ever lived in a house with bedroom door locks, but I did put a hook and eye lock on my bedroom door when I was a teenager. I got tire of my younger siblings walking in when I was dressing, studying, etc. but because the door never shut tight, to keep out the Great Danes who could just push the door open and scare me to death. My parents were fine with that.</p>
<p>Except for when my kids were little, I have always knocked first. Agree that it’s just common courtesy. Even if I had nothing to hide, I wouldn’t have liked it if my parents felt my room was not my sanctuary that they could just invade at any moment, so I let my kids have their own spaces.</p>
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This caught my eye because I don’t think we can categorize all high school relationships as casual “fun” flings. Teenagers can be in love and it should be taken seriously. </p>
<p>The whole subtext here on teen relationships is very interesting. Have other posters had teens who were seriously in love while still in high school?</p>
<p>I had a serious relationship in high school. I was engaged and we were together my freshman year of high school until sophomore year of college. Had I not gone to college, we’d probably be married. I was absolutely in love (with the wrong person, but I digress) and nothing will ever convince me otherwise.</p>
<p>Sylvan, I agree. For me they seemed VERY serious at the time. OF COURSE some people begin serious, even mature lifetime loves in HS. My sister did. No matter what, a kid’s emotions should be given validity. Nothing’s more infuriating than being patronized and not taken seriously.</p>
<p>I was trying to be careful to call his/ her D’s relationship a RELATIONSHIP. I assume it was fun, given the poster’s previous comments.
My relationships were mostly flights of fancy.</p>
<p>I am reading all these comments and have enjoyed/laughed and understood the humor in all this. I was a stay at home mom. I was home…a lot. We also had those rules about opposite sex kids being upstairs in house when I wasn’t home. Our housekeeper was in house five days a week.</p>
<p>Guess what? They did. I came home with the girls early because something was cancelled. Guess what? We weren’t alone. I took my daughters into the kitchen while they left. Was he grounded? Yep. Considering everything, he will be grounded until he’s 40. </p>
<p>And once (just once) my kids said that just because we had been perfect when we were teens times were different. Mr. Ellebud was in the chess club, so ok. Me? My parents mantra was that as long as I got As no problem. My best friend and I went to the Strip and the Polo Lounge for lunch at least once a week. I was 14 at the time. And…although I dated…a lot…I never brought a boy home.</p>
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<p>Yes. And I’ve been that teen-fell in love with a boy in 9th grade and dated all the way through high school and until junior year in college, when he was killed in a tragic accident. 30 years later, I can still get choked up thinking about him. </p>
<p>That’s why I always give my girls the respect of believing them when they say they love someone.</p>
<p>Nrdsb, I’m so sorry :(</p>
<p>One of my girls started dating a boy sophomore years in high school. They are still together. I strongly think that they will marry in a few years. In high school they did hang out (door open) in her room. Other daughter…slightly different start date but…they are together.</p>
<p>So yes Nrdsb yes, it can happen. I am so sorry.</p>
<p>^^^^Thanks. Yes, 30 years later and sitting here with tears in my eyes, dangit.
“True love never dies” is so true. </p>
<p>DH is such a great guy, when he closed a huge deal, he gave $20K to my alma mater for a memorial scholarship named for ex-BF for pre-med majors. Is he not amazing? :)</p>
<p>^That is amazing. Sorry Nrdsb4, didn’t mean to open a can of worms with that question. :(</p>
<p>^^^^^Ha ha, no worries. :)</p>