Are “you” team text sounds on or vibrate? More often than not, I’m vibrate. It really annoys me to hear other people’s text notifications! ( I get texts on my Apple watch too and so that alerts me (through vibration) if I’m getting a text - or call).
Depends on who is texting. I have my family set for different text tones and ring tones so they will come through even if I have the volume turned off. Everybody else is vibrate and I keep the volume turned off on my phone. I mute group texts always unless it’s my family group.
As for text etiquette I don’t feel any need to respond immediately unless it is time sensitive. If it’s just a “hi, how are you” that can wait until I’m not busy. Might be a day or two. Grammar and punctuation? I play a lot looser with that on text but partly because my thumb typing seems to be getting worse after decades of doing it rather than better.
Gotta figure out how to set these!
I live with Pavlov’s dog. DH is so conditioned to respond immediately to every phone and watch alert, that I finally had to request that he leave both annoyances on his office desk in silent mode during cocktail hour, meal time, tv/movie time, and any time we’re entertaining. If we’re having a conversation and his eyes glance at his watch, I simply stop talking, and the watch comes off.
It was hard to wean him, but a few treats and "Good Boy!"s worked wonders. 
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No kidding!!!
I pretty much respond to texts and emails as soon as I have a free moment if it is from someone/some company I actually know. I pretty much block all other texts and emails.
Because of the nature of my business, if I get a text/call/email during a conversation, I will look at it to see if I need to respond immediately. If that is the case, I will excuse myself with the other party(ies) before I respond.
The other question is if you even look at your phone when you are with other people in a social setting. My wife gets pretty upset at me when I do this, especially when there is a constant ding of a group text that I have with my close college friends. What I want to say is this conversation is more interesting than the one we are having now, but I meekly bite my tongue, put my phone in my pocket and not stir the hornets nest.
I don’t cook dinner all that often b/c my DH usually has meetings at night or is taken out by vendors. But, after twice my DH got up from the dinner table and said he had to take the call (neither was important and could have waited) when I had made dinner, I let him know I was not happy and he needed to not do that.
That said, the other day I was playing bridge with my bridge group and one player is really, really, REALLY slow. Like painfully slow. And by the time she plays I’ve forgotten what’s already been played. So at one point after I delicately asked if we could please play a little faster, I put my hand face down on the table and started to read my emails. My bad. But sheesh!
Do you have an iPhone or Android?
Iphone
You set the ringtones and text tones under the contacts.
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I have the opposite, we are on some family texts together, plus our iPhones are wonky so I get some of his texts (that he gets as well), I have to keep reminding him to answer questions and reply.
I am on iPhone but one of The kids is not n an android. So family group texts don’t come as iMessages. Does it matter? Thanks!
You can still set the ringtones and text tones. There have been times when one of our group is on an Android, etc, and it does make the group texts flakier, but doesn’t change the tones.
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THANKS. Will try it out
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I have a lot of siblings and we have a group text. I removed my husband from it as he had no interest in the ransom conversations. He figures I’ll tell him what he needs to know.
My phone is on silent 99% of the time. Half the time it’s in another room. It drives my daughter crazy that I sometimes don’t respond right away.
I think it’s rude to take a call when you’re out with someone. I realize there are circumstances that require a text or pick up but that is the exception not the rule.
What drives my husband crazy is I have one sister and another friend who like to call around 5 pm. He figures they have all day to call. We are all no longer working.
Adding my kids don’t listen to voicemails, if I call and they don’t answer I’ll text why I’m calling.
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My husband has a friend who calls at 10pm. I find that time rude but then I find the friend rude also.
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I just watched my kids give their grandmother a lesson on emoji use that involved eggplants, peaches, pickles…. It boiled down to “Grandma, just stay away from fruits and vegetables!!!” It was pretty funny.
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I despise voice mail. My message is “This is mathmom. Please send me a text.” I got too many messages saying “This is garblegarble. Call me back at numberssaidsoquicklyIcan’tunderstandthem.” I always answer texts quickly - if it’s going to take a while, I’ll have something like, “I can’t answer right now. I’ll get back to you.” If I’m talking to someone, and I feel I need to respond I apologize and take care of it quickly.
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I have one client like that. She asks me a question, I respond with something that needs info from her, and then nothing! Drives me bananas. A lovely person otherwise though!