It is … and as happy as I am for all the students receiving Yeses this week I want to say to those who have or whose kids have no acceptances to date:
Hang In There!!!
I was IN your shoes last year and this board was positively painful to read. My D didn’t get a BFA yes until the end of March. Take a break, be nice to yourself, do some things as a family and skip reading CC if it’s hard. This can be a tough month and a half. ((((HUGS))) to anyone out there who doesn’t have that first yes - please realize that MANY of us know how you feel - you are definitely not alone.
Agreed, @CaMom13 … my D’s disaster of an audition season was legendary in 2014, until that big yes in late March. Never fear, folks who are wishing, hoping, thinking and praying for that first yes…it will happen!
@collegehelp! …my S has been accepted to BoCo and notification came first through an email that said to check the portal…and then in a big envelope. He auditioned at the NY Unifieds and heard from them before Chicago Unifieds. That being said…he had submitted for Early Action I believe…so it may be why he heard so quickly. I know many who auditioned in NY who still have not heard either way.
^ Agreed! I actually took a LONG break from CC during my audition season (I think I maybe posted once between Unifieds and my final decision) because I didn’t have ANY yeses in January, February, or March. I finally came off a waitlist on April 22nd (I still remember the day, 5 years later, because I was so stressed out!). It was making me (as an applicant) really anxious to read about all the people who had options. To anyone who might be lurking and feeling the same emotions I was–I see you and I’m holding space for you!
And waitlists can go even later than end of March. So know that sometimes those yeses come close to May 1st. My D had an MT in her class get yes in June. And it was after social media post by school announcing the BFA offerings. He was a boy too. So it’s a long wait for many. Last year’s class heard later than prior years due to increased applicants. So pray & be positive and maybe take a hiatus from CC. No ones journey is the same. Here’s to any yes and to happy fits for this year’s class.
@“collegehelp!” BoCo, in the past, has notified via email directing to their portal, all at once and they’ve been one of the last schools to notify (3/30, 3/31…) along with Manhattan School of Music and NYU. This year, BoCo added Early Action for the first time, so some acceptances would be from that process. And it sounds like they may start rolling notifications once they’re through with all their auditions 2/16 and 2/17. The portal will change once you have your decision - I think it changes from “thanks, we have all your materials” to “next steps” or something like that.
After attending Unified auditions and seeing the tremendous talent there I was fearing my child would get all no’s, but we just got a first yes! Rider University!!! Hang in there parents if you haven’t heard yet. It will happen! This board has kept me sane. Thank you all for the encouragement even if you didn’t know you were speaking to me. All the positive comments kept me going!
@KAT67 Congratulations! Did your D get an email or a call or was it on the portal? My D was redirected to acting for Rider and we haven’t seen any movement on the portal yet.
@afterp89 Thank you! She received an email that her portal would be changing today. We checked and it was a BFA acceptance to MT. Best wishes to your D!
My D received her first notification today, and it was a “no.” It hurts because it was her first choice, and the best overall fit for her. We both felt at home at the on-campus audition, she felt a strong connection to the faculty and students (with whom she did an evening dance class), and we left there feeling, “this is the one!” Of all her many auditions, this was the one that just seemed like the perfect fit. We were shocked to get a no so quickly – only 3 days after her audition. We were told that notifications would not go out until March, and no one would hear anything after the University finished all their auditions later this month. So my daughter (in tears) said, “they must have really hated me to say no so fast.” This particular rejection is extremely painful.
It is no consolation but I’m so so sorry. There is no way to soften the blow of this especially since it felt so perfect. That happened to us .My literal prayer after the audition was Lord let this be, or let us feel this excited and sure about the place she ends up. I know our veteran parents on here will chime in with stories that will encourage you and give you hope!
@2019wolves I wish there was a button to click to offer you a hug. I’m so sorry - this is a brutal process. We just have to all believe that there is something better for our children out there still to come. I know that it breaks out hearts when our children hurt. We’re here for you.
@2019wolves, I feel you SO much. My D went through this last year for acting.
She had been researching schools for two years and one school was her absolute dream school, a perfect fit. We visited and took a tour and like your D, mine immediately felt a connection and that she was “home,” and pictured herself going there for months. And then…rejection. She was absolutely devastated. So much crying. It cast a pall over the whole season and even into the summer, after she’d accepted another school - she was STILL mourning “the one that got away.”
But she’s now halfway through freshman year and LOVES the school she attends and is very happy there. Once she settled in and made friends and started classes, that became “her” school.
So huge hugs to your D - it is SO hard when they fall in love with a school but then don’t get in. But just like with any heartbreak, there are other fish in the sea! Take a little time to mourn the loss, because it does hurt. But then look forward and focus on your other schools - there are so many wonderful programs out there where you can be happy.
Best of luck to her and fingers crossed for some great “perfect fit” acceptances!
@2019wolves This trip can be so heartbreaking. My son has five noes so far and several of them came within a week of his audition. BW felt like a perfect fit and that no still hurts. I don’t think a quick no means anything other than our kid is just not what they are looking for this year. At one point, I started to question, “is my son just not as talented as we’ve always thought he was?” But the good folks here have helped me realize this is not the case. Sometimes it just doesn’t seem to make sense. Our heartfelt hugs and support to you and your daughter.