@2019wolves I’m so sorry. This process is soul crushing. I pray you get a yes quickly somewhere else to ease the blow.
@ZukAndSowash Did you get a no from BW recently? I thought they notify on March 7.
@2019wolves Just wanted to reach out to tell you that I think all of us who have been through this already can absolutely feel your pain…sending you and your D hugs. This happened to my D…she attended a pre-college program that she felt was a perfect fit in EVERY way…we loved the campus and the program and going into her audition we thought it was a no-brainer. Top choice school. She didn’t feel great about her audition, so we left feeling uncertain and confused and then eventually there was the dreaded “NO”. There was a mourning period for sure. More tears had been shed than I had ever experienced before (from her and myself). It is an extremely difficult and (can be) painful process. There were many more auditions (I think she applied to 21 schools total) and she ended up with multiple offers and is currently a Freshman in a wonderful program that she didn’t originally envision herself in. I think she has blocked out the entire auditioning process out, to be honest. But she is so very happy. Learning, growing and thriving. Many parents who had been through this before last year kept reinforcing the mantra “It only takes ONE” and this is such an important mindset to try to wrap your head around. I will add that your D will end up EXACTLY where she needs to be! Hang in there! 
@2019wolves my sympathies. It’s brutally hard to see our kids get rejected. And no matter how many times we say “It’s the application they rejected, not you. They don’t know you!”, it’s still incredibly painful.
What helped my daughter last year was a 24 hour pity party-- complete with ice cream. We both knew that at the end of those 24 hours, she would pick up the pieces and move on, but she was allowed to mourn the loss of each school as they came in.
That, and our mantra: “You will bloom where you’re planted.” A year later, she’s happy as could be at a school she had never heard of when her initial apps went out. Today is their annual ski day; the school cancels classes and the student body all heads to a local ski mountain. She’s never been, and can’t wait. She’s made lots of friends, and is growing so very much-- indeed, “blooming.” She’s planning to get a tattoo of a flower to remind her that she has the capacity to bloom wherever she’s planted, and not to sell herself short.
In the meantime, sympathies to your daughter and the rest of your family as you see her go through this difficult process.
@ZukAndSowash & @2019wolves - Right there with you. My S had an audition that he felt couldn’t have gone any better and he left feeling like he had aced it. It was also the school that had started this process at the top of his list. He had worked with a couple of the faculty in outside productions on previous occasions. When that NO came in the mail he was numb. However, he has received a YES from another on his list and we are still awaiting decisions on his other two recent auditions (I sing “the waiting is the hardest part” song almost daily now). Another door opened for us so my hope is that you will experience the same. Hang in there!
@NewToThis13 no from bw back in Dec from early audition
@2019wolves I’m so sorry for this. This is a brutal process. I do hope you get a “yes” soon to help lesson the blow. We had 2 early “no’s” from Emerson & BW and it definitly sucks! I do like the 24-hr Pity Party idea. Get it out and mourn but move on to better things. This process kills us as parents because when our kiddos hurt, we hurt double because we can’t fix it for them. Hang in there and I know the perfect fit for her will be right around the corner.
@2019wolves - I am a firm believer in the process working itself out in the end (discounting the PTSD effects). I know this doesn’t sound correct now, but re-evaluate when it’s all over. For my S (in acting), I was devastated when he didn’t get into “dream school,” but where he landed is FAR better for the actor who can sing. I think “dream school” saw better than we did that my S wouldn’t have been as happy in their program which didn’t allow actors to audition for musicals, etc. But I DO know how sad it is at this point. I’m sorry!
@2019wolves Hopefully your D can see a quick no as a blessing because it allows her to move on. My D and I visited the same school this summer and she loved it as well and applied the first day applications were open and was one of the first to submit her prescreen - and got the no about a month later. It was a rough start to the process, but she has found other schools that she really likes as well and knows she will thrive.
That said, she does have a new favorite… auditioned for them in early November and still waiting. I’m bracing for the disappointment and will be elated if it’s a yes. It’s our last year of being full time parents and it is so hard when you find yourself in a situation where you can’t protect them from being hurt.
@MomofJ5 May I ask where your s landed? My d is an actor who sings. You can message me if you’d like. Thanks!
@2019wolves I think all of our hearts broke a little while reading your post. We are a community here, and when one of our kids’ hearts get broken, we all hurt because we are right along on this journey with you! It’s a devastating blow, but I am a firm believer that God opens and shuts doors for us that He knows will help us along the way. It’s hard to see big picture when we are in the trenches, but hearing all the stories of other people’s kids landing where they ultimately belong should give us all hope.
@2019wolves I am so sorry. My daughter only passed three out of ten prescreens and this whole process has been gut-wrenching from the start. I am dreading the 'no’s" that are surely on the way and praying for one yes at a school we can afford to send her to. I hope better news comes your way soon <3
@2019wolves - It hurts bad, I know….been there, felt that. When our kids suffer, we suffer. One of the worst days of my life was the day of D’s trainwreck of an audition at Wagner (March 2, 2014 - the date is burned in my memory)… imagine driving home for 2 hours in heavy traffic with your child sobbing in the front seat and your ex in the back seat. The crying didn’t stop for days. As I have said a million times, to the point of boring everyone, my kid was the poster child for dejection and rejection for the CC class of 2018. Then the one YES came, and now, five years later, she’s a working actress about to depart for her dream job! Just hold on a little longer, it will all work out as fate has ordained…I truly believe that.
Love this @EastchesterMom
Thank you everyone for your encouraging words and kindness – your support is much appreciated 
@2019wolves I am so sorry your D go a no to her first choice. My D’s number one choice will likely be the same outcome. The pain is real. Hang in there.
It’s a long way to April 1st. I wish for you all that it wouldn’t have to be such a roller coaster of emotions. It’s hard when you’ve done everything you possibly can do and then, after applications and auditions, it’s completely out of your control. Try not to second guess yourselves on all the choices you’ve made along the way. Colleges WILL make offers and then you’ll be in the driver’s seat. That’s why accepted students visits are so awesome. It’s a whole different dynamic than the campus tour or audition. Meanwhile, plan something fun for March that doesn’t have anything to do with college applications. After several heart-breaking no answers, we booked a plane ticket for our D to get some quality sister time over Easter Break. And she ended up getting her dream offer while she was there!
We are going to Wright State U for auditions next weekend…Has anyone been, or going that can provide insight to the auditions, as well as any suggestions of places to stay, eat, etc.
Also, if anyone has insight on the school itself, any info is appreciated!
^^to my comment above, I should explain that the offer was from “a” dream school. She got “no” notifications from four others that were here dream schools at the time, so loyalties kept shifting. And also she got a lot of “no” notifications from other schools on her “B” list. We started a “dead to us” column on our spreadsheet.
@lithpool some helpful responses in the Wright State thread under MT Schools. My D loved it there.
@DramaLlama18 One popular large midwest university added to my “dead to me” list after a series of poor communications - lack of response to requests for guidance on process, failure to answer emails or voicemails and ultimately freezing out my D for consideration. This from my father’s alma mater where I actually attended for my first 2 years. Trashed a more than 65-year relationship that spans back to my grandmother… they’ll never see another dollar from my family.
@lithpool Wright State has been in the news lately due to a faculty strike. You can read more about it by reading the Dayton Daily News. Not sure how it will impact future programs, but it would be good to have some background info going in…