@mindatwork same. It’s as if you took the exact words out of my brain and typed them into your post.
@theater9969, my son thinks we’re all crazy! He makes fun of me, rolls his eyes and calls us all the “Musical Moms” and not in a good way! :))
@“boola boola” I agree with a lot of what you said. In a secret way, I’m disappointed that my son wanted to commit so soon in the process and withdraw from his other auditions. I would have just like to see how he fared! I know he got in to the program that is the right fit for him, but I would have been interested to see the outcome of PPU, Viterbo, Rider, Hartt, JMU, etc. But, that’s just me as a mom. He is going to be attending an amazing program with amazing training I know that. But, I would have been interested to see if “he got in.”
@mindatwork I’m right there “over-invested” with you!! Just like you said, how can we not be?!? I’m a proud, nervous parent too who went to just about every voice lesson, dance lesson, drama coaching session, etc. I admit I have a problem! Maybe we can rename this thread MT Anonymous after they’re all in college programs and we have too much time on our hands not going to voice lessons with them!
@“boola boola” Thank you for sharing. Your post was painfully similar to my story as well, with the exception of the fact that my D hasn’t been accepted to an MT program yet. After 18 auditions (and 5 more to hear from), she has 2 BFA Acting acceptances and several deferrals & rejections. Which I am grateful for, but she is questioning why… and is she good enough. Even though we went into this process hoping for just ONE acceptance… and knowing she picked safeties for a reason, we both still got so hopeful for those reach schools… and the mid tier schools… and, well, all of them.
I am so very grateful for each of you sharing your stories, so I feel a little more “normal” with my OCD-ness throughout this process. It’s far more emotionally difficult than I ever imagined for both me and my D. I’m thankful to be here with you all sharing and caring for one another!
@21stParent I auditioned at unifieds as a walk-in, and until late February after it seemed like everyone else had already heard back, my portal had said “incomplete items outstanding”, probably since it was a walk-in, so I emailed the arts department. A week later I hadn’t heard anything back so I forwarded the email to admissions and my portal changed to “complete ready for review”. A couple days later it ended up being a no, though. You might want to contact them, depending on what the portal says.
@MTmama42 Trust me, no one has more OCD than me. Just ask my DS, he’ll be happy to tell you!
We’re all here to support each other and I know your D will get that yes that is just right for her soon!!
@“boola boola” I have the answer. It’s pretty simple. LOVE. All of you who are over-invested and feel the feels more than the kids, love your kids and want only the best for them. That’s why you want the best school. That’s why you hurt even when their least favorite school rejects them. They’re lucky to have you.
You should all have most if not all the decisions in just over 2 weeks. It’s a wild ride, but it will be over soon. And yes - you might be sad that it is over and miss it, because it’s probably one of the few times that you have worked as equal partners in such a huge project - having so much bonding time with your teenager. Best of luck as the season wraps up!
I’m sort of caught in the middle on the anxiety. My wife is the one who obsesses over rankings and I have to try and redirect her to the positives of each school. (She insisted our S, a computer science major, apply to Ivy League schools even though he only wanted to go to our Big State U - so he applied to one he hadn’t visited as opposed to the 3 he did visit and then declined an interview without telling his mom.) I had to convince her to visit one of my D’s favorites. She said she didn’t want to go because she already didn’t like the school based on things she’d read on Niche. In person, the experience was very good and now my wife says she’s fully on board if that is the choice - but I know if she chooses school B over school A that is “higher rated” she will voice some displeasure.
My D has taken a different approach than many. She doesn’t want to deal with the stress - she prepared for her auditions and put out her best effort and some days were better than others, so she’s willing to let the chips fall where they may. She does have a couple favorites that I know will hurt if they end in rejection, but I do believe she’ll take it in stride.
The different approach is this - I’m the one who opens all the letters and emails and checks the portals and then I figure out how, when and where to tell her the news. In fairness, I have extensive experience and training in crisis communication and sometimes that has helped. We’ll see what happens if/when one of the programs calls her, since I can’t intercept those. It has been a bit of an emotional drain on me, especially when I know I have to share news with her that will hurt her, but it has worked for us.
@afterp89 thanks for catching that! Yes OHIO University
Ok. Here goes … S admitted to Point Park. He’s really excited, and I am very happy for him!
PP=no. Next!
@“boola boola” my son got in, too! He just called me from intermission at “The Prom” in New York.
My D was accepted to Point Park!! So excited for her!
@ZukAndSowash same… on to the next.
@MTmama42 Thanks for your kindness. I have been so impressed and touched by the people here. I am very sorry for what you and your daughter are going through. Our journey has been a different one. But when we started, our hope was that our S would get into even one program. I am hoping to hear very good news from you soon on the 5 schools!!
Someone had asked about things that they would do differently after going through this process – and I’m going to use this as a therapeutic confessional! For me I wish I hadn’t focused so much on the financial aspect of things. In choosing schools we focused first on them having solid MT programs but then whittled them down to ones that would be affordable for us. I’ve been shocked by the amount of academic scholarships that have been offered (haven’t heard back on talent based yet), which have basically brought the out-of-state tuition down to in-state levels. I’m now having regrets over him not applying to some of the top-tier programs based on sticker shock! Who knows if he would have been accepted – but I can’t help wonder if those would have have been economically feasible for us in the end.
@mtmom1967
Congratulations on PP. Didn’t we meet at the Missouri State audition last week? My son was a no for PP ( not a great dancer TBH).
@sedaley Re: AMDA in case you are not aware it is not accredited by the same body as most of the other schools so credits may not transfer. My D was also accepted for Acting (we have released the spot) and they never mentioned that in their info session/audition. It’s important informattion IMHO.
My S was also accepted to Point Park! Congrats to all.
Yay! Congrats on the Point Park acceptances! My D is a Freshman MT there and LOVES it! I am happy to answer any questions if I am able…feel free to PM me!
I know that @BWmama is already done her presentation, but since others may be benefitting from the “wish I’d known” list of things…
We also ran into Point Park’s Unified schedule being full by the time my S tried to schedule with them, and then when we arrived at Unifieds they didn’t have space for walk ins, but someone from the college suggested that my S come back toward the end of the week, saying that kids start to cancel or no-show the last day or two as they get to a point in the process of just feeling DONE with auditioning, or they fall in love with other schools during the week and decide to skip others. So this is what my S did, and he managed to get that walk in. I bet this works with other schools as well. Just keep checking back.