<p>WildChild is not tall and is a skinny runner (well, if he is ever not injured) with curly hair that he tends to buzz off most of the year. He is an economic and political conservative. He is clearly my child in every way, but, fortunately, also got some math ability from his father. He has barely darkened the door of the church since his confirmation (a couple of times with bribes on holidays and as required at his boarding school).
His sister is a musician and Postulant and a political liberal.
They are NOT close, but are possibly gaining a tiny bit of respect for each other???</p>
<p>I haven’t read teh whole thread but good luck you are doing well.</p>
<p>We didn’t have a rehersal dinner or brunch- and I didn’t miss it.
I actually was having a miscarriage during the ceremony and at the reception finally accepted that- so I got drunk.
( which can be very handy if not overused)
;)</p>
<p>MOWC, just a slight OT question - in your Church, what is a Postulant? The only context in which I’ve heard the term is that of a girl seeking to enter a Catholic convent, and is the status before she takes her final vows as a nun. Obviously not the case in this situation!</p>
<p>“give them a simple reminder and quietly enforce your decisions.”</p>
<p>Right. You can’t control other people’s childish behavior; you can only choose to behave like an adult yourself. When people threaten to stay home if you follow through on your plan to invite/not invite Uncle Joe, you say, “I’m so sorry you won’t be able to join us. We will miss you.” Next subject. That’s all.</p>
<p>A person is called an Aspirant until he or she qualifies as a Postulant, which means you have completed the approval process up through and including the Bishop. It is a lengthy process and involves lots of committees, discernment and interviews. In my daughter’s case, it involved the Bishops of two states and coordinating with where her fiance would match for his residency. You then need the Bishop to OK where you want to go to seminary, and Bishops have strong feelings about that.</p>
<p>Friend of son’s was telling us about family wedding. Must be from the same family that your D is marrying into! Ah, it won’t be a boring wedding!</p>
<p>My hitch comment is withdrawn How about, ‘it will come off without any of the hitches you expect. I make no predictions about completely unexpected and bizarre hitches’</p>
<p>So many of my friends’ kids getting married this month - the hitches are sometimes the fun part.
One MofB tried to dictate that rehersal dinner (Texas bar-b-que) should have a “cocktail attire” dress code. Yea, that’s going to work! One bride was excited that dinner was served on a special commemorative plate with the couple’s name along the edge, so she tilted it so Mom could see the writing. Dinner in lap ensued. Another mom just found out that the kids were actually married 6 months ago by a JP. All these things will be funny in about a year.</p>
<p>Wow who would have ever thought your family wedding would get so many responses :)</p>
<p>I must add my funny family wedding story. There are no feuds, but the couple put down on their bridal registry XBOX 360 games! I swear I am not telling a fib. This was also not a registry that had gravy boats and soup tureens…heck, they only had 6 towels listed (2 bath, 2 hand, 2 wash) they also asked for a 250 goose down featherbed, or the $300 Kitchen Aid, but when I saw the XBox, I pulled Bullet in the room as I looked him and told him you know that wouldn’t have flown with me! His response I was never that stupid to ask!</p>
<p>When I spoke to my brother he broke out in laughter and made me swear that I wasn’t pulling his leg!</p>
<p>I might be really old now, but is it normal to ask for a gaming system that my 18 yr old son plays with his buds…Oh I forgot to add they wanted the gaming chair too!</p>
<p>MomofGroom called last night to tell me she thinks she has everyone on board. Granny has agreed to attend the dinner and the sisters will come to the dessert party, unless “DadofGroom pulls something”.
My daughter’s grandparents will not be able to travel, which is disappointing but not within our control. They are offering to bring the kids to them in the fall (if his residency schedule permits) and put them up at Hotel Del Coronado. Groom says he will find a way!<br>
Important matters- H and D bought all the alcohol. H is still in shock at the quantity and price, but I reminded him how much less it is than if the caterer provided it. Now just have to keep WildChild (coming home Monday) away from it until the big day!</p>
<p>It’s times like these which remind me of the saying “God blesses us with the ability to choose our friends, and curses us by choosing our family members for us”. :)</p>
<p>Wishing you (and more importantly, the B and G) the best on what hopefully will be a beautiful and special day. Of course, we all want a full report when you finally recover!</p>
<p>MOWC, I went to a friend’s wedding years ago at which the following took place.</p>
<p>The POBs had divorced years ago, when the FOB left the MOB for a lounge singer. (Not that there is anything wrong with being a lounge singer, but when your H leaves you for a much younger, glamorous woman…and moves to a big house in the suburbs and starts a second family while you get to move into a very cramped apartment in the city where you share a bedroom with your aged mother and daughter…) The first time the MOB and SMOB met–or at least saw each other, I don’t think they spoke–was at the wedding! </p>
<p>The best man, the BOG, who was a rather disreputable fellow who modeled his appearance on Roy Orbison, and the MOG were so late to the wedding that it started without them–apparently after various dramatic phone calls saying that they might not come…they lived in the same city and didn’t even have to travel!-- with the BOB standing in as best man. Halfway through, the BOG showed up and instead of quietly sitting in the back marched up to the front and took the place of the BOB and a big fuss was made about seating the MOG in the front. Then we all realized that the MOB and MOG were actually wearing the SAME dress. (They had bought it from a catalog.) I could go on from there, but you get the picture. The MOB, who certainly had her trials to bear that day, behaved beautifully. :)</p>
<p>A doctor at the hospital where I worked offered me a piece of advice. He said, “Thing will go wrong; they always do. If, at the end of the day, you are married, everything went fine and you accomplished what you set out to do. It is not the wedding that matters, but the marriage.”</p>
<p>That kept me sane through the many things that did go wrong. Don’t remember too many family dramas, though.</p>
<p>Can you top this?
FOB is discovered having an affair and outed by HusbandofMistress one month before wedding of my H’s niece (MoB is his sister). Its more or less kept a secret but feelings shall we say, simmered overboard at the wedding.BrotheroB,though underage, gets really drunk at wedding and physically takes on the FOB. MOB virtually in tears the whole time.
Fast forward one year.ParentsofB now seperated attend out of town wedding of child of my husbands other brother.FO (original)B virtually invited himself to “save face” with the family.Grandmother of OriginalB is also Grandmother of Groom at this wedding, and disgraced H was always her fave.
OriginalMOB gets way drunk at reheral dinner at ParentsofG house(her brother and sister in law),falls down stairs,goes to ER,generally disrupts all festivities.Family of NewB,immune to all the background histrionics are aghast at the behaviour of New Yorkers (scene taking place in semi rural Minnesota).
MofOriginalB recovers enough to make ceremony/party the next day even though limping.Repeats behaviour,fortunately w/o another ER visit.New Yorkers slink out of town.
Three years later, Original B and G have seperated.</p>
How about, ‘it will come off without any of the hitches you expect. I make no predictions about completely unexpected and bizarre hitches’</p>