I really like the wrap dress look on her.
I canāt even find a pair of Jimmy Chooās that fit and I usually can squeeze my feet into a size 11 shoe. Maybe a Jimmy Choo size 43 will fit, if Iām lucky. But thereās not many of those to be found.
Iām very tall and I wear heels. Not big platform ones though.
Pressured to wear heels? Iāve been around a long time and never experienced that, Romani.
If heels work for you - great. If not, there are plenty of cute options.
No pressure to wear heels, either. I wore them to work when I was younger and wore business dress. Nowadays I wear them more for special occasions, but simply have no need for everyday. I agree with BB that the black pointy toe slingback is a terrific basic shoe to have. Iām wearing my own (not Jimmy Choo, out of my price range!) to an event in August. Itās a shoe Iāll wear for years.
Good for her that sheās got a good stylist. Maybe her Kardashian family could learn something from them instead of the gaudy, trendy tight fitting look. Kim K canāt help her build but by god, there are ways to dress that are more flattering.
And I too did think Kate Middleton with one of the pictures.
āIt shows how broad her back is, especially in proportion to her hips.ā
Hey, thatās how I look from the back!
I think Kanye is dressing Kim.
And wonder if the first dress is Diane
Von Furstenburg.
A 6ā2" woman with outstanding calf definition is going to look great in the array of dressy ballet flats available. I would certainly explore them in her position.
I find wedge styles far more comfortable than other shoes of similar height. When I was in college, thick, chunky heels were in, and those were great for me. Iāve never been able to wear a stiletto of any height. At 5ā9", I donāt have to worry too much; I only wear 3" or higher if Iām going to be on stage. I found mid-height wedge sandals for my wedding, which is in a park district space. I donāt want to have to worry about my heels sinking into the grass!
Wedges are great! Maybe Iām in a wrong industry or on a wrong coast, but I have not noticed any pressure to wear heels. Even female attorneys here donāt wear them if they donāt feel like wearing them. 
Tricks and tips for wearing heels: look for a shoe that ācagesā around the foot and has a strategically positioned heel that distributes the pressure of the body weight evenly (think the shoes worn by ballroom dancers - they know what works and what does not!). Anything taller than 3 inches is a no go in my book - unless you wear size 12 shoes, or the shoe has a platform bringing the actual rise down to a reasonable height. Pigalles = No, Tribute sandals = yes. For everyday wear, pick shoes with 1/2-1 inch heel. Flat flats are just as bad for the feet as stilettos. Just ask an ortho doc. Always go shoe shopping in the evening, when your feet are tired and swollen. Take the pair you consider buying for a spin around the store, donāt try them on carpet only. I always hand my purse to the SA and tell him that I would be back in 30 seconds after I test the shoes on the tile floors of the cosmetics department. the look on their faces is priceless.
/off my shoebox.
Yeah, I donāt see āpressure to wear heels.ā I myself wear lots of ballet flats. I like Repettos amd if I had the money Iād buy in every color. And Iām not particularly tall.
I doubt she is wearing those shoes because those are all she can find, You can get shoes from Zappos and Amazon in that size, and there are a lot of resources in finding womenās shoes in larger sizes, too, these days, in part because womenās feet have gotten bigger. Even payless on the cheap end carries larger sizes, and I think Nordstromās does too, so she has choices. Plus there are some custom shoe places that arenāt that expensive relatively, you can design and order your shoes for around 200 bucks or so.
It is good to know that the usual āgrass is greenerā thing cuts across to the trans community too. Tall? wanna be short. Short? wanna be tall. āsoftā arms? Want toned arms! curly hair? want straight. Staight hair? want curly!!! lol!
If she just got access to all this cool stuff, and could aford it, why not have some fun with it?
BB if thereās no pressure to wear heels, I think youāre on the right coast not wrong 
As for being tall, when short people complain about not finding pants that are the right length I counter with āwould you rather hem up your pants or attempt to add material?ā
Exactly! I donāt understand why they make pants so short when itās so easy to hem them and so impossible to take them down.
Sheās demonstrating that if you have the right shoes, theyāll complement a lot of different outfits. Good for her that sheās having fun with it all and looking classy and dignified.
Then again, maybe sheās just wearing shoes that she likes. Not trying to set an example of what sort of shoes one should wear. Perhaps they just look and feel good.
I canāt believe that people (including me) are spending any of their life discussing the specifics of CJās shoes. But itās just too dang hot to go outside.
I agree, @busdriver11 : When you find something that looks good, you wear it, regardless of gender!
Also, I just wanted to thank everyone on this thread, again, for being so kind and supportive! Iām responding to a backlog of awesome PMs. I guess nothingās really changedāIām still utterly undecided on anything related to transitionābut I did ācome outā to a IRL friend and collaborator. Heās an expert on trans issues, so he seemed pretty safe and was basically like ācool, whatever. Let me know if you ever want me to start using male pronouns.ā Also, Iāve realized that Iām far from the only trans person to go through stages of āyeah, maybe I can live with being [birth gender]ā to āyeah, I need to transition ASAPā and back and forth, so thatās been normalizing. I honestly thought all trans people were like āI need to transition now! No doubts! No hesitation!ā and it made me think for the longest time that I was just āfakingā how I felt.
In other news, completely unrelated news, the academic job market apparently startsā¦ now. Itās surreal (and terrifying) to think Iāll actually be applying for faculty jobs in a matter of weeks! Wish me luck?
Good luck with your job search, psych_ !
@psych_:
The best of luck to you on your job search! As far as trans people being so sure of themselves, yep, thatās me, that is more a figure of fiction then fact, I think that someone who is facing that kind of thing and not have doubts, not be scared, is a bit suspect, and I suspect what you described is probably something a lot of trans folks go through.
Best of wishes to you, psych.
Continued good wishes, psych.