<p>I am not referring to the facebook entry. I am referring to the screaming. </p>
<p>It looks like the dad is trying to compensate for not spending as much time with his D, but she is screaming at her stepmom.</p>
<p>Marite, I suspect the relationship has a number of problems. You are likely right, that it is easier to blame a step than a real parent. As to why the relationship went south a few months ago – it could be the girl sees herself going to college and is just now allowing her feelings to surface. I do think the SM should stop reading the SD’s facebook, although I find the “unfriending” unnecessary and more like junior high school, a grab for attention.</p>
<p>It’s never occurred to me to read my Ss’ facebook entries; I thought the “unfriending” was intended to stop the stepmom from reading the entries and getting upset when the stepD vents. </p>
<p>My two Ss are out of college. I do remember that we all felt tense about their going: withdrawal symptoms, too much overthinking what would be needed to purchase/bring along, etc… And there were some tense exchanges. But I cannot recall my Ss ever screaming at their parents after they turned 4. That kind of behavior is totally beyond my ken.</p>
<p>When I was a teen I had a very bad relationship with my step mom and my step dad. I remember the screaming matches, shoving, pushing, locking myself in a bathroom and climbing out of a window to get away from them. I remember trying to start fist fights with both of them.</p>
<p>But ya know what I am closer to my step parents today then I am to my blood parents. I fact my dad and step mom are now divorced but I am still closer to her then I am my own dad.</p>
<p>When I was a teen I did not think either one liked me at all, but now as an adult I see it different and even tho I put them through hell I know they loved me then and love me now.</p>
<p>I think the only reason to read a child’s facebook, etc is for their safety. And then put it behind you.</p>
<p>The only reason to read your child’s facebook entries is obsessive noseyness. It’s an illogical crazed passion leading to even more illogical and crazed conclusions. Such fun it is!</p>
<p>Agree with missypie. She’s acting like a nervous bride. Graduation is a big deal for her, plus the birthday, so she’s super stressing out. My sister would almost have to be hospitalized during the holidays, she got so stressed out with the big family get-togethers. Some people want these occasions to be like they are in the movies, everything perfect. Life is not that way, and it takes age and wisdom to learn to lower our standards.</p>
<p>“She is not acting hormonal, she is acting like a spoiled brat”</p>
<p>Only because you are paying too much attention to her commotion. I still insist ignoring goes much further than any argument. Actions always work better than any words.</p>