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<p>Funny how many horror stories of weddings and dinner parties gone awry involve undercooked chicken.</p>
<p>Please add me to the PM list, also. </p>
<p>This thread makes me feel that getting through the wedding may be one of the toughest jobs I have to do for our child in my life. I am scared. </p>
<p>Unfortunately, no daughter from a good family is willing to elope, otherwise I would encourage them to elope - as long as the young couple is willing to do so, I am willing to contribute my “EFC” to them to help them get started in their marriage, independent of whether bride’s family are capable or willing to do the same, or more, or less for them.</p>
<p>I offered money instead of a wedding and the answer was no. “We want the wedding.”</p>
<p>My friends did the same and the answers were no… “We want the wedding”.</p>
<p>I just added “Imodium” to my list!</p>
<p>I would love to be on this PM. I already think you are an angel and I will likely elevate you to saint if I know more 
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<p>Well, I am not sure about that. Of course my daughter would love a beautiful wedding, but she is also the most practical kid I know. Once she saw the numbers on paper, she might have a hard time justifying such extravagance for one day.</p>
<p>I didn’t mean to suggest that your concerns weren’t valid or that you shouldn’t have posted. I just thought it would be nice to hear some of the positives too so that we could share in your joy as well as your frustration. Glad to hear that the rabbi did a good job and that your friends seemed to enjoy the reception! Wishing your son and your new daughter-in-law all the best. </p>
<p>I had no idea people frowned so on eloping. </p>
<p>I have one who would love to elope and one who definitely won’t. </p>
<p>Is the PM thing for real? I thought the OP was just venting and not serious. But if it is . . . Addme! :)</p>
<p>As a past MOB and presumed future MOG, please add me to the PM list. THANKS for sharing!</p>
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<p>Why not? </p>
<p>If two people simply want to get married by a court clerk or a member of the clergy and tell their families afterward, what’s wrong with that? It saves a whole lot of time and money. For people who dislike fuss, it’s the more comfortable alternative. It can also be the graceful choice for people who have Awkward Family Situations of one sort or another that could cause a lot of angst at a wedding (divorced parents who refuse to be in the same room, close family members who can’t stand each other, etc.).</p>
<p>I would not be unhappy in the least if either of my kids eloped – unless their partner or their partner’s family really, really wanted a wedding, in which case I would hope that my kid would go along with it out of consideration for the other family.</p>
<p>But isn’t the important thing the marriage, rather than the wedding?</p>
<p>My daughter and SIL went down to City Hall and got married. I wouldn’t call it eloping since we all knew they were going to do it and when. They just wanted to be married, had no interest in a wedding. That’s who they are. </p>
<p>If most people are on the PM list, is it really a PM?</p>
<p>At my friend’s wedding, many years ago, her mother had a to do list for the bridal party. It was all written on index cards. They were told where they had to be and who they had to dance to with ( a lot of older relatives). My friend was horrified, but I have to say it was one of the best organized, beautiful, fun wedding I have ever attended.</p>
<p>Are half of the 8 pgs of posts people saying “pm me too??” Why not just post it. If not, well add me to the curious pm requesters. Why not…</p>
<p>I cant blame this in eas/west coast. Just cant,. We are in the same situation- west coast wedding - we are east coast. We just had a big engagement party here and her family came in for it. In fact they all stayed here. It was a blast. Cant wait for the west coast event. It may be a little more outdoorsy/california, but it will be lovely and I cannot imagine a list of rules or whatever. Horrifying. Your son put up with that? Ouch.</p>
<p>We have had one or 2 little issues surface, but as the MOG I am smiling and wearing beige.
So sorry you put up with that, momof3.</p>
<p>@dstark, I guess the kids won’t allow us to have an easy way out.</p>
<p>Between this thread and the Flip This House thread, I’m a happy CC-er.</p>
<p>I need to check that one out!!</p>
<p>To me weddings are about family. I love a reception that is full of all the generations: old people and kids. My own dd got married at city hall and we threw a reception months later. I am very thankful as the idea of a full blown wedding terrifies me. I would have to hire one of you cc’ers to handle it.</p>
<p>OP- you sound like you handled things gracefully. That is hard to do sometimes! If your pm is real, please add me to it. </p>