<p>a girl in our area, well, guess she was messing around with a boy, who got mad at her for lying to him, what did she lie about, dating a 25 year old guy</p>
<p>boy then posted the whole story on facebook</p>
<p>it is now in the ether, floating around for all to see</p>
<p>and this is how her parents will find out she was shagging a 25 year old</p>
<p>ph yeah, she is 15</p>
<p>How is anyone to know the posted story is true? Anyone can post anything online whether true or not.</p>
<p>Besides, facebook entries are not visible to all. They are visible to MANY, but not all.</p>
<p>oh its true, and it is all over the girls school, and my D has mutual acquaintances, and yep, it is true</p>
<p>well, this boy who was so angry told his story everywhere, then the kids talked about it and face booked each other the details, with names, and volia, its out there</p>
<p>even her “friends” are sharing the details now</p>
<p>goes to show, this day and age, your bad behavior will come out if you make someone mad enough</p>
<p>^^ If so then I guess Facebook wasn’t much of a factor - this spiteful boy spread it to the school and everyone he knows anyway. And even so, how does anyone know it’s true unless the girl says so?</p>
<p>it was because that is where the story traveled…all around facebook- kids were posting those little messages joking about the manfriend</p>
<p>facebook was a big factor, he posted for all his network to see, which is big, those people shared with their other networks, and so on</p>
<p>And it is true</p>
<p>She has always hooked up and dated older guys, this was just the oldest</p>
<p>spiteful, maybe, but if she had nothing to be embarrased about dating and shagging a 25 yo, if he posts about it, well, he may be a total jerk, but he had some ammunition and used it</p>
<p>don’t agree with his method, that is why this is a warning post</p>
<p>and that 25 yo, well everyone now knows his name…</p>
<p>I’m pretty sure that’s called statutory rape. Hope he gets put behind bars for screwing a 15 yr old.</p>
<p>will keep u posted</p>
<p>I agree that we can’t always believe everything we read on facebook. Case in point, one of my daughter’s best friends is good friends with a boy my daughter used to date, and they both went to school down in Chicago (they were older than my daughter). One crazy (and probably drunken) night, they both decided to ‘create’ a facebook insinuation that they were dating. Most everyone, when they saw it, was utterly surprised (for more than one reason), and frankly, kind of grossed out. They took it so far as to allude that they were engaged, and started to have a lot of fun with it, seeing how far they could take it (knowing their friends at home were probably freaking out). Well, they both finally cracked (maybe after three months) and couldn’t risk facing anyone and having to lie to their face, so they outted themselves. In hindsight, all their friends thought it was a ridiculous possibility, but couldn’t get them to crack. </p>
<p>It was kind of a funny joke, but nothing nearly as serious as a 15-year old girl shagging a 25-year old (OK - where does statuatory rape come in?). But it does prove kids can conspire to create all kinds of stories with a few strategically placed facebook pictures and comments.</p>
<p>zimmer07 - cross posted with you. At least we’re on the same page.</p>
<p>an adult I know has contacted the school to make sure they are aware of the possible criminal acts</p>
<p>and it is not a joke, believe me…I have talked to several parents from the girls school, and it isn’t a joke</p>
<p>read up on statuatory rape- if there is an age gap, having sex (shagging) with a minor is illegal, the bigger the gap, the worse the punishment</p>
<p>this is actually pretty serious stuff when you think about it- 25 yo man with 15 yo girl</p>
<p>CGM</p>
<p>This stuff was going on way back when I was in high school. Rumors were still spread, just by different mechanisms back then. Illicit behaviors will always catch up with those who engage in them sooner or later. Most likely at least some of this story is true. Where there’s smoke there’s fire. What was posted (on not posted) on Facebook is not the problem here, a 25 year old man hooking up with a 15 year old girl is the issue.</p>
<p>Oh that I know, and the ick factor still stands</p>
<p>So some responsible adults from the school contact the counseling office, if its not true, it will die, but if it is true, which is most likely, at least it well be looked into and whatever needs to be done will be</p>
<p>“and this is how her parents will find out she was shagging a 25 year old”</p>
<p>“will” find out–so do her parents even know? Seems if everyone’s talking about it, someone could maybe mention their concerns to the parents of this minor girl, instead of just to the school or other parents… it’s not clear to me how or why the school would be involved anyway.</p>
<p>I don’t know if I’d bet on that CGM. If none of this took place on school grounds and the girl is not interested in talking, there will be very little the school can do. It may be up to her parents to speak to the authorities if they are so inclined.</p>
<p>well at least the school will notify the parents, knowing the school…we shall see…I don’t think this will jsut fade away, too many people know</p>
<p>what about school employees as mandated reporters. Even if the activity doesn’t happen on school grounds, if they find out about it, aren’t they required to call law enforcement? Otherwise, schools would not be obligated to report any abuse that occurs in the home that they become aware of, because it’s off property. Just wondering.</p>
<p>There are different issues going on here. As far as the teen having sexual relations with a 25 year old is an issue regardless of facebook. I do not get why someone would contact the school, however. Also, rumors may have some truth to them but may not be entirely factual (for example…just saying…the girl could have gone out with the guy and no sex occurred…only those two know…and I’m not saying it did not occur but am pointing out many possibililties, not just that one, that the story evolved as it went from one to another). </p>
<p>I happen to think that the boy who put it on facebook and spread it around there was wrong. I think it is disrespectful to spread rumors or things of this sort about another on the internet and the innuendo that goes with it and the ways the story can get distorted. The aim is to damage another’s reputation and to be vengeful. If it was a true concern, the person would talk to an adult to make them aware of this concern. Spreading it around the facebook “yard” is not good behavior and mean. I think it is taunting and harrassing, no matter what she may have done. It seems like blackmail. Consider the source and the motivation, even if the story may be true…could be embellished and the intent is evil. So, I do not think much of that boy based on this behavior. </p>
<p>By the way, not everyone can see your facebook page depending on how you set it up. Then again, it sounds like other kids are putting it on their own facebook page.</p>
<p>The concern should be if the girl is in an improper relationship or if statuatory rape occurred. This is not the purview of her friends or her school. It is a matter for her parents, a counselor, or authorities if the story is true. It surely is not a matter for schoolyard rumors of the internet variety and public put downs of the girl, and I don’t know that the school needs to be involved either. There is the issue of this girl and the older guy. But there is a second issue of internet behavior by the teen boy and peers. That kind of taunting and public put down can be damaging to this girl too.</p>
<p>if the boy had said nothing, her little friends would have kept the secret and goodness knows what could have happened</p>
<p>sometimes people actually talking about someone doing something wrong or having something wrong done to someone else can save some real harm being done</p>
<p>If you don’t think it is the purview of the school, sure it didn’t happen on school grounds, but what if the parents are aware of the relationship and ignore the possible crimes being committed, then we just say, eh</p>
<p>Not all parents are good parents you know</p>
<p>As for school yard rumors, how many school yard rumors were ignored and some really bad things happened</p>
<p>I don’t like gossip, but I actually am grateful this boy spoke up in his clumsy mean way</p>
<p>Maybe know this girl can be spoken to and the man involved</p>
<p>Maybe a bit of pain now can stop disaster later</p>