<p>^ At younger s’s bar mitzvah, we invited many of my DH’s coworkers, many of whom were internationals. Apparently they did not understand the RSVP clearly, and responded “yes” to both the luncheon after the service and the party that night (that had both heavy hors d’oeuvres and a sit down dinner). Except they didnt show up for the big evening party. We had something like 20 no-shows (maybe more–the exact number I have conveniently blocked out of my memory). It was dreadful.I was severely non-plussed.</p>