<p>Yea, let her be a kid.</p>
<p>And… reconsider honors/accelerated courses. If she needs extra tutoring for that, then maybe it is not the best path. There may be other ways you can support her gifted tendencies. Good luck!</p>
<p>Thumper, the FIRST semester her daughter got a high B in math. RIGHT NOW, she has all A’s and a B in science.</p>
<p>I’m not sure a kid with the grades this student has NEEDS a tutor. I’m going to be frank here…getting ONE B is not the end of the world…and getting a tutor for a student with a B seems like overkill.</p>
<p>I also noticed that the OP said he/she was working on the science B. please OP…sure, you can help your kiddo review, but PLEASE let any work that is done be your kiddo’s, not yours. The teachers are NOT looking for YOUR answers on the homework, they are looking for the student’s. If the parent corrects all of the work, the teachers will think the kid knows the info.</p>
<p>And what happened to the OP?</p>
<p>I agree with everyone. Sounds like a nice family with a solid student who should come out the other end of high school barring anything unforseen ready for college. Not much more the parent can do at this point other than be supportive without being pressureful. But if this is a 7th grader it’s too early to worry about what that same student might “look like” in three years or where that student might land in the college admissions process. I would advise the OP to ‘turn out the noise’ so the OP can focus on having a happy, emotionally healthy young person.</p>
<p>I think roshke has a good point in #19. I find it odd that a kid who is in a gifted program has a hard time reading and needs a math and science tutor. There are plenty of extremely bright kids out there who are able to disguise an LD until middle or high school because of their innate talent.</p>
<p>My opinion is relax, it is way too soon to even think about college. As I reflect over the past year I feel like a lot of it has been me turning out undo stress. My son is a Senior and I wanted to make sure he stayed on track, meeting deadlines, etc. However, it does feel as though the opportunity to enjoy having him home this last year was drowned out by reminders of grades, deadlines and essays. He has always been an A student, but as parents naturally we worry. I am starting to look back though and wish I had taken time to enjoy the present and spent a little less time fretting about how every little setback was going to affect his future.</p>
<p>To the OP, consider watching “The Race to Nowhere”.</p>
<p>Try not to think of your child as a project, or something to be perfected. It is easy to buy into the overwrought competition for getting into the most elite colleges, especially if the people in your community are seemingly all buying into that mentality. I bought into it myself in someways, but, thankfully backed off, I think.
[Race</a> to Nowhere | LEVERAGING THE POWER OF COMMUNITY TO TRANSFORM EDUCATION](<a href=“http://www.racetonowhere.com/]Race”>http://www.racetonowhere.com/)</p>
<p>Wendy Mogel is quoted in “Race to Nowhere”, and her videos and books are worth checking out. Here’s one video:
[Dr</a>. Wendy Mogel - 2011 URJ Biennial Plenary - YouTube](<a href=“Dr. Wendy Mogel - 2011 URJ Biennial Plenary - YouTube”>Dr. Wendy Mogel - 2011 URJ Biennial Plenary - YouTube)</p>
<p>As the parent of a very driven gifted kid, and the former wife of a gifted but LD guy, I think some of the above answers may be onto something, but have another view as well. It’s entirely possible that the student IS absolutely qualified to be in the gifted program, but takes a long time to read a book because of an undiagnosed LD. My ex was dyslexic, but no one ever realized it because he hid it well-he just got pegged as lazy when it came to reading, and writing too because the dyslexia slowed him down there. </p>
<p>While I agree with the posters who think a tutor to “correct” a “B” grade is a bit much, it’s possible that the drive isn’t coming JUST from the OP, but the student herself-that she WANTS the challenging classes and WANTS to get all A’s or bust. My own 8th-grader pushes herself like this-we are the ones who have to slow her down, but within reason. It’s a hard position to be in.</p>
<p>OP-if you think your D has some challenges that may be getting in the way of her reading-do look into that. But ease up on the idea that unless she has all A’s she’ll never get into college. That’s just BS, honestly. She also may be feeling so pressured that she’ll burnout and stop even trying-lot’s of gifted kids do that if they can’t be perfect-and they all know they can’t be. Some just handle it better.</p>
<p>I think it can matter what she gets in middle school algrebra I. My oldest dd got a B+ because she had a 92 at a catholic school. She needed a 93 to get the A. It transfer into the public high school as a B. It put her class rank at number 32 at the end of tenth grade with straight A’s the entire year. This pretty much kept her out of the top 5 but she did climb to number 7 at the end of senior year. So it can affect her class rank and GPA in some situations. Call your high school and see what they do with these classes the grades the student receives.</p>
<p>I agree with sseamom that it is worth considering an evaluation for learning differences. Many bright students go undiagnosed for too long because they work around their challenges. You have cited a couple of specific problems that are causes of concern for her, and that when I think it’s time to screen for LDs.</p>
<p>I don’t have a problem with a tutor for a ‘B’, if it’s the KID’s idea. My D2 was frustrated in Pre-calculus. She had a B, but she just couldn’t seem to break that A. She asked me if I would get her a tutor. No problem.</p>
<p>Happy to help, but I would have never recommended it to her for a B.</p>
<p>“I don’t have a problem with a tutor for a ‘B’, if it’s the KID’s idea”</p>
<p>Exactly. My own D was similarly frustrated with her Algebra grade of B (which WILL, at her school, be on the HS record and contribute to GPA, because it was optional to do so, and she chose it). Rather than ask for a tutor, though, she worked with her teacher to understand where she was missing the connected dots. Her last quarter grade was an “A”. The difference with your D and my D and the OP is that she seemed almost panicky about the B, when it’s really nothing to panic about, UNLESS the KID is panicking for some reason.</p>