<p>Jack, this is what I said in the first post. Isn’t this the same thing as blue collar? In my vernacular it is. “Happens to be a URM from a working class background.” I never said poor.</p>
<p>I respectfully submit to you that your post #80 doesn’t quite reflect what I’ve posted. The girl is not “estranged” from her family and I don’t recall posting that. I do, however, think she is depressed and I also feel that life is very, very short and four precious years of it shouldn’t be spent being unhappy. I’m not sure why you don’t get that not every school is right for every student. As I said, this is not a great tragedy, but it is a small sadness for the people who care for this young lady. The advice presented here has been quite valuable, and I’m grateful.</p>
<p>In reading this post, I can’t help thinking about the student I had many years ago whose parents didn’t want her to go to college AT ALL… until I found her an all-women’s college. She was thrilled to find a college her parents could agree to.</p>
<p>While it is unfortunate her parents are overly controlling, I can’t help agreeing with those who suggest the young woman make the best of a bad situation. She WILL get away from her parents; she WILL get excellent on-campus health facilities (for that potential depression); she WILL get an excellent education in a surprisingly un-snippy environment (or so I’ve always heard about Wellesley)… and perhaps she will find friends there.</p>
<p>zoosermom: I said not to “feed into (possible) depression and estrangement.” Key word: Possible. I never said they were “estranged,” either. But I sure think it’s possible to encourage that; consequently, I think you should support her and, yes, encourage her to make the best of a less than perfect (but far, far from disasterous) situation. </p>
<p>Again, it’s a great school–and, especially given marite’s post #83 above-- potentially full of wonderful possibilities, opportunities, and experiences. Encourage her, and show her the positive side of this. </p>
<p>She’s also fortunate that her parents saved enough over the years to pay full freight for Wellesley; that --in itself-- is no small feat. Think about the flip side of this-- those kids who post here, who get into great schools, but their parents ultimately won’t send them because of lack of funds; alternatively, think about the kids who don’t get into any schools at all.<br>
I agree with dmd77 above.</p>