Being 20 years old, I’ve realized that discipline comes in all different forms. However, I recently thought of the perfect way to teach your kids or teens how to act more appropriate for their age:
Let them learn through the mistakes that they make. Now, this all depends on the situation. In fact, this is something that only affects them temporarily. I’d also show them videos of public, social experiments on Youtube: JoeySalads, Coby Persin, etc. Even though some of these videos have mixed reviews, just telling them to watch out may or may not work for some children/teenagers. Going further, you can also tell them that their mistakes can negatively affect you as well.
- Telling them to go to bed, but not enforcing it. So, if they stay up, sleep in, and miss the bus or work, then it'll be on them.
- Telling them to do homework or study for a test. If they refuse, then their grades are negatively affected.
Basically: telling them to do almost anything that doesn’t put them in harm’s way. But, if they refuse to do so, then it’ll be on them.
Now, if they continue to struggle, then adjusting your discipline towards them would be an option if it starts become a bigger problem for you.
On an extra note, I’d also sit down and explain to them about this form of discipline: (How it affects you and me) I don’t mean to sound too controlling, but I’m just giving my own opinions.