Should have been “…reaping the seeds DH sowed…”
I’m talking from my own experience, but trying to make a broader point. When poor choices are validated, when we unwittingly teach disrespectful behavior is fine, even praise it as assertive, and joke about future partners, we may send the wrong message. I don’t get all the praise (acceptance) for the “get out.”
You know me enough, Dos, from CC. I’m not suggesting any kid cower. I like empowerment in kids and a good argument is tradition in my family. But I don’t cotton to this “teens will be teens” from some posters any more than “boys will be boys.”
I get that OP thinks the “get out” meant less than I do. But I wish he were reporting she took a calm approach, said nicely, “Dad, it’s ok, I’ll pick up the studies on June 14.” Then I, like others, could be proud of the maturity.
Maybe the “get out” is a trigger for me, having listened to D2 say it for years, seeing DH never ask for an alternative tone. There’s more, but let me skip private details. My point is: there are other ways she could have spoken up for herself. Lessons, perhaps, to learn.
And perhaps if Dad thinks he’s been tigering, he considers stepping it back. Pushing her and getting to the point where she pushes back is not the only way.