<p>we had to put down our foster dog yesterday, she was old and it kind of was expected, just not this soon, but it hit me hard, I think because that morning I said good bye to two of Ds best friends, and D is chomping at the bit to go to college as well</p>
<p>I am getting a big glass of wine and some chocolate someplace after dropping D off</p>
<p>Moved S into his dorm on Thursday. He’s actually going to the local university, so he’s obviously not too far away, but it still hit me tremendously hard. I had to bring my mom home early (she’d been with us all day as we’d moved him in, done the wal-mart run, etc) because her dementia’s worse in the evening, and I didn’t get to finish helping him set up his room. Hubby and D did that. I felt left out, which, of course, made me sadder. Even though I know our relationship must change, and I won’t know what he’s doing or where he’s going, even if he does live in the same town, it’s difficult. However, he has called me twice since Thursday. That made me smile. :)</p>
<p>Zebes</p>
<p>Hey zebes - sounds like a bittersweet day. I remember your earlier posts re: your Mom. Am glad your S. is fairly close by.</p>
<p>It just hit me today, surprisingly, that we won’t be seeing S. everyday anymore-- no more waiting for him to get home from school or practice, no more dinnertime together, etc. I just hope these things occur to me before (or after) ‘goodbye,’ rather than during - it would be too much!</p>
<p>cgm - sorry to hear about your foster dog. It was nice that she had a home with a kind family until the end.</p>
<p>I am an uber tear-er at these kinds of things (I have about 10000 miles of video tape of D’s first steps first EVERYTHING, it seems.</p>
<p>BUT</p>
<p>this whole college search process is certainly removing me wholly from the sentimental side of it. The stakes are so high (money wise, as well as life importanct wise for jobs and for future relationships such as mates etc) that I am worrying about this 24-7, trying to understand the system, game it out etc.</p>
<p>Is 5-1-08 (for a class of 2012) the big final d-day, as in decision day, in which one must have a college selected and confirmed?</p>
<p>maybe after that, I will get to the sentimental part. I hope they let me out on pass after that that day at the asylum.</p>
<p>:)</p>
<p>Yes, jcd - the changes from one year to the next are pretty vast.</p>
<p>Research, visits, test, decisions, the shock of that first tuition bill, and now this! This is definitely the biggest step for us, though. It’s hard to imagine how you’ll feel a year from now. I knew it was coming, and time flew! Thanks goodness S. is excited and happy about where he’s going.</p>
<p>MidwestParent,
Loved your post! I laughed so hard it made me CRY!!?? LOL! Will share with all my friends!!</p>
<p>I have been crying almost daily since oldest S’s HS graduation. (We) He leaves this Wed. for his Freshman year and I have developed multiple personalities! Being the only female in a house of PROCRASTINATING MALES, I go from MANIACAL MOTHER to Mellow Mom. Anyone else?? HUH??</p>
<p>multiple personalities! Brilliant - that so describes me right now! I am so out of sorts, I couldn’t even remember my CC password, so I “borrowed” my DD’s to be able to post. As if the normal tears weren’t enough, DD "(my one and only in a single-parent house) gave me a card and book, and wrote in the card how she wanted me to feel comfortable to spread MY wings and not feel I had to stay around to guard the nest for when she returns on breaks, etc. - meaning she was trying to give me permission to explore new aspects of life. She alsmot died and we spent two yrs battling her illness, so we’re esepcially close, and she’s going across the country, which is so good for her. She climbed into bed w/me the other night because she heard me sobbing in my sleep. I asked her why she didn’t wake me up - she said she just put her arms around me and hugged me while I sobbed. She thought I needed to get it out, because I have been trying so hard not to cry.</p>
<p>And,whoever brought up “My Dog Skip” - thanks for that! haha! That got the tears a-flowin’! I try not to think about that sweet movie, because just saying the title makes me bawl. :)</p>
<p>Good luck everyone who has a tough week this week. I’m right there with ya!</p>
<p>Crying at middle school graduations? I cried at my son’s pre-school graduation when the kids, dressed in daddies’ white shirtsd (forn robes) and graduation caps sang “We are the champions of the world.” </p>
<p>I cried at the last concert. I was fine, but the director of music made a speech specifically aimed at getting us moms and dads who are made that way to cry.</p>
<p>But most of the time I don’t cry. I had no idea how difficult it is for some folks. However, maybe some of those not crying wish they could. I sometimes do. Wordsworth described our condition as having “thoughts that do lie too deep for tears.” (Not implying deeper feelings than criers; just saying that non-criers are probably feeling the same way.)</p>
<p>I dread the empty feeling I’ll have in my empth nest ten days from now more than the actual separation.</p>
<p>I think we are an odd group of people: we spend thousands of dollars we may or may not have to torture ourselves. LOL.</p>
<p>mythmom said–
I dread the empty feeling I’ll have in my empth nest ten days from now more than the actual separation.</p>
<p>You won’t be lonely for long…</p>
<p>You will be getting love letters from the college - possibly in installments.</p>