<p>Yes, in my opinion she sould not turn her mother in. I am pretty sure she knows that mother trully wants the best for her, but because of the traditions/culture/personality just cannot express it in a reasonable and constructive way.
The real question should be: is the mother supportive just as she is demanding? It looks to me that she is (she did take her daughter to a college to visit, for example).
There are too many parents who do not care - so who is in better shape?
And, btw, I am not asian.</p>