<p>Here’s the thought going through my head. Those of you who know, in all cases of abuse, do the parents think or tell themselves that they are doing it for the kids? That it’s the best thing for them? Do even the crazy truly sociopathic parents still believe that?</p>
<p>In the middle range, where the cultural differences can be debated, I strongly believe parents all believe they are doing the best thing for their kids. They just have different definitions of what that is. </p>
<p>BTW, I myself am clearly a Western parent who has always been on the far left side, believing in no spanking, no shaming, do your best to be the adult, they are the child, etc., even of course, when driven to distraction and unable to fully execute…</p>