<p>Alumother,
do abusive parents think they are doing the right thing? In my experience yes. Abusive parents often think hitting is appropriate and screaming is the only way to teach a child. Sociopathic parents? My mother is one. Does she think how she treated me was appropriate? I think she doesn’t care. Sociopathic parents have no empathy, no feeling for anyone else. They are entirely out of control. A sociopathic parent, like my mother and perhaps like duckies mother, could beat me to the ground one moment and the next smile sweetly…my mother knew how to charm the outside world as well as she knew how to torture her daughter. I wonder too if the partners of sociopathic parents don’t know how to regain control. Many people have asked on this thread - what is duckie’s father doing? I don’t recall seeing a reply from duckie. My own father? Years after the abuse, when I decided not to see my parents any more, said to me “but I didn’t do anything”. I suspect, perhaps like duckies’ father - but I’m only guessing, he knew exactly what was going on but was too afraid himself of how crazy my mother could be, so he was unable to take any action. Unlike those of us who are loving parents who would lay down our lives for our children, sociopathic parents would feed their children to the wolves just to watch.<br>
duckie, i’m crying now. the last thing i wanted to do was to hijack your thread. I hope you are safe today. I wish, like binx I could offer you a place in my home. if you are in the bay area, the door is open. we could at least help you find shelter and safety, even if i can’t offer you a permanet place to stay.</p>