<p>I was a freshman in a great school that was in the top tier. I had an incident in which I was using facebook to message a particular person of the opposite sex. She made eye contact and her friends were around me and stuff. so I thought she liked me. So then, for some reasons, even when I tried to avoid her at lunch and at dinner and in the physics lectures, either her or her friends had some ways to attract my attention.</p>
<p>So then I wrote this series of facebook messages to her friends and her fb inboxes. Turns out she got creeped out by my acts and then complained on me to the student affairs office.</p>
<p>After talking about my situation, the office assigned the status of “interim suspension” on me where I cannot return to the school unless I complete a psychological treatment and assessment about my mental health issues.</p>
<p>So now with this situation in mind, my parents decided that it be best for me that I leave the school.</p>
<p>My question here is that can anyone determine some right schools for me to transfer?</p>
<p>current college GPA: 3.4292</p>
<p>My HS statistics:
2000 SAT
33 ACT
740 SAT chemistry
780 SAT Math IIC
extracurriculars:
NHS
NSHS
Volunteering at the library.
Orchestra (All-region and solo competitions)
FBLA Regional “Economics” competition award
Texas UIL Number sense award
UIL Spelling award
played violin for the past 11 years. not playing the violin that much now though.</p>
<p>college extracurriculars:
Orchestra
pre-med club (AMSA)</p>
<p>And my state of residency is Texas.</p>
<p>By the way, my parents do feel a lot “sorry” that I was to leave that university of such high caliber.</p>
<p>You need to find out how this suspension is recorded at your current university. Will it be reported to the place you transfer?</p>
<p>Take a look at the colleges and universities where you were accepted to last time around. Do any of them still appeal to you? If so, pick up the phone and call the admissions offices and ask what you should do to complete a transfer application. If you are very lucky, they may even have a space for the fall.</p>
<p>If none of those places look good to you, take a long hard look at your home-state public Us and community colleges. Maybe it would be nice to be home for a semester or two and just get a bunch of your general ed. credits out of the way.</p>
<p>Don’t discount the advantage of getting a job or volunteer position and taking a year off from school. Give yourself a chance to grow up a bit more, and to think more seriously about your long-term goals for your education. If you take a year off, it will give you a chance to re-consider returning to your first university. If may still be an option.</p>
<p>No the college will not record my suspension. They said that all files they have regarding the matter will remain confidential. However, if I return, the summary letter (saying that I needed psychological attention) will remain on files in the dean’s office. So the dean can see the file if I ask him or her to write a rec letter.</p>
<p>Personally, I feel that the school has “tricked” me into this deal with them. During the ordeal, they told me that everything will be fine as they forced me to tell details of what happened. Then, they used the details of how I was “taking advantage” (that’s their words) of the female student into my charges without taking in account of what they (e.g. the female and her friends) did to “lure” me into this trap. </p>
<p>Although when I signed the agreement to the sanctions, they told me nothing has been determined yet. However, when my parents arrived, they told my parents that a week before they kicked me out “the committee” (as they call themselves) have already decided my sanctions. So even in me complying, they violated my due rights process, as I had found out. Then, the hearing is basically a one-sided play, with the official giving me the sanctions letter.</p>
<p>Well, as far as I am concerned, my parents convinced me that returning to that college isn’t the right decision. (I.E. those people could strike again). Besides, they noted that rumors at a campus ruins a student’s live. </p>
<p>right now, I will be going to a local university, and then transferring into a state university.</p>
<p>What does anyone else think of my situation?</p>
<p>Yes what I am saying is true. However, there were two other instances where I tried to attract females ( one by giving them flowers during valentine’s day and writing on her bulletin board that I loved her, the other was pretty much the same, writing stuff on facebook)</p>
<p>What bothers me was that in the last two cases (flowers during valentine’s day and the March incident that I mentioned in the OP of this thread) was that I did told the truth and the stuff they want to hear, but yet expelled me anyways. However, on the summary letter for the flowers during valentine’s day incident, they did mention(in writing) that if the compliaints persist that I may get expelled.</p>
<p>Back then, the student affairs office told me to visit the psychological counseling office for “counseling” to change my behavior. In fact, that is what they told me when they kicked me out: I needed to be in therapy to change my behavior.</p>
<p>I guess I was too gullible to other people. Both of these incidents began actually when the female students made eye contact to me during class. Then, during homework sessions, I was helping them with homework and they intended on purpose to “get” my attention. However, they ignored me, but still walk near me every day.Her friends and she sit near me in the lunch room on purpose; sometimes even after I leave the room for another location, they would follow.</p>
<p>I think that the University’s expelling you is way overboard. Also, I’m not sure that you need therapy to change your behavior. In all honesty, I just think you need a good friend that can teach you the “ins and outs” with “the ladies” lol. You may need some social skills (no offense) but you seem harmless. If you have the $ and the will, hire an attorney. If not, then what are your freshmen stats? Where do you want to transfer to? Sorry about the crappy situation. :(</p>
<p>Well, they complained of this situation as “harassment”. I have a 3.4292 from a top university. Perhaps I could transfer to a state school (e.g. UT, Texas A&M,) or maybe a school along the caliber of my former school (e.g. University of Rochester, Emory, Rensselauer polytech, UCSD, etc.) I was a biochemistry major for pre-med, but my parents have convinced me to be a biomedical engineer. (They’re afraid of what if I don’t get into medical school.)</p>
<p>PS: Since I listed some schools of my former school’s caliber, maybe you guys might be able to guess what school this is. If you are considering this school, I would tell you to forget it. There have been many posts in here about how other students complain about this school.</p>
<p>Just a wild shot in the dark, but I saw Texas and high caliber, so I just connected the dots which led to Rice in my mind. And lol @ the dude above me.</p>
<p>I believe that you should consider some kind of counseling/therapy. This would help you determine whether you need to spend some time concentrating on your social skills, and it could also help you work through your anger at the various people at your former university. I think it is going to be hard for you to trust the administrators at your next school until you sort this all out in your own head. You want to be able to get on with your life, and not feel this cloud hanging over you. A good counselor/therapist should be able to help you do just that.</p>
<p>Thanks to all the people who contributed to this thread.</p>
<p>Yeah, both of my parents said pretty much the same things. As for right now, I am not angry at anyone. The point of me posting on here was to ask if other alternatives exists for a person like me right now.</p>
<p>Again, thanks for the “advising” you guys helped me provide. For me, I have recognized how naive I was in coming to college. This stuff was unexpected for my part. </p>
<p>I guess this would be the end of our discussion. Thank you to the help some people provided on this thread. For now I am going to China to visit my grandparents.</p>
<p>I think RPI might be a good place for you, but expensive. A&M would be nice. And I can tell you are sincere but you do need some advice and understanding about getting along with members of the opposite sex, not just for surviving at school but for thriving in the workplace after you graduate.</p>
<p>One thing bothers me about the whole situation . . . Is there any way you can post an exerpt from what you wrote in those messages ??? (I had to ask since I am so curious :D)</p>
<p>I’m sorry, but this whole situation is a bit weird. You gave girls flowers and told them you loved them thinking they were interested in you because you made eye contact and they sat relatively near you at lunch? Obviously I don’t know the whole situation, but it sounds like this girl may have been justifiably creeped out.</p>
<p>I wish you good luck in your transfer endeavor, and I’m sorry such actions were taken against you. It’s good that the suspension will not be on your record, and your stats should open plenty of doors for you.</p>
<p>I think you do not understand “boundaries” when it comes to relationships. Your misinterpretations and subsequent inappropriate behaviors has lead you to being asked to leave school. You need to see a therapist to give you insight on why you misread people so badly. You can’t keep running away from the truth…you creep women out so much they complain to school officials about you. You don’t even admit to being at fault but entrapped. Seek therapy or this pattern will continue until you are arrested for harassment or worse.</p>