I do not even pretend to understand. I just read, listen, watch and intake the info. No one close to me has gone through this. The two kids I knew who who transitioned had very supportive parents. I marveled about that at the time, because I do not believe I would have been as understanding and helpful. Both of these young people, despite what appeared to be family support committed suicide. My kids who knew them said that they had had a whole host of issues, and the transgender, transitioning was just an attention catching issue because of the shock value to many. If anything, they feel, it distracted from those other more important, dangerous problems those kids had. But those are just two, though two too many to die—I wish they could have been helped.
I know that “LUG” (lesbian until graduation” was a common term when I was in college in the dark ages. Especially in all female colleges, but also at mine. None of them are identifying as gay now days. The one woman who is, was not LUG. A few gay guys did come out, but the numbers and percentages for my school are low, and because our class is small enough, most of us are accounted for. Of course, some can still be in the closet.
But no one transgender. Even from a school renown for sex change surgeries even back in the day.
I can only wish well to all who are dealing with this situation, this state of being, both parents, and the offspring, and all family members and those concerned and involved.