<p>Being behind the style times I just heard about this via the new hit show-“Jerseylicious” which is sort of an extension of Jersey Shore but with “class”.
Anyway part of the show included a “trash the dress” post wedding photo shoot. Is this really something people do?</p>
<p>Certainly not among the people I know. Then again, I’m kind of “between weddings” – I’m too old to have friends getting married (or even remarried), and my children’s friends aren’t getting married yet.</p>
<p>I actually think some of the photos are neat but I wasn’t attached to my dress either - in fact when I got remarried I didn’t wear a traditional dress. Some of them don’t appeal to me but when this trend first hit there were some beautiful pictures of both bride/groom in unique settings - rolling in leaf piles, swimming in a lake, etc. All ones that made me think a good cleaning may solve whatever you did to it.</p>
<p>While some of the photos border on the pornographic, I kind of like the idea of buying a cheap dress and not making it the center of the wedding. Don’t trash it, but don’t worship it.
It’s about your vows and your intentions, not about “Say Yes to the Dress” and spending 6 or 7 grand on a dress.
Enjoy your wedding. Don’t worry about the dress being an heirloom.</p>
<p>yes…D is shopping for a wedding photographer now and this “trash the dress” session is offered as part of the packages…just for reference, this is in the Midwest.</p>
<p>I had mine preserved. It’d be easy to alter, and it’s a pretty classic-looking, simple design that someone might want some day.</p>
<p>I’ve seen some “trash the dress” shoots, since I do some photography work on the side. They seem to flaunt extravagance, to me… It’s one thing to not spend a fortune on the dress, but a lot of the “trash the dress” shoots I’ve seen have been with expensive, several-thousand-dollars dresses and cans of paint. Makes me feel a little oogy… Surely there could be a better purpose for that dress than to just trash it…</p>
<p>(Edit: My husband, seeing what I was typing and the “trash the dress” sites I was perusing, said, “Trash the dress? Is that for if someone’s getting divorced, or something…?”)</p>
<p>That is what I thought at first re divorce. It makes a lot more sense that way! This is just a way of saying “I have so much money that I can trash an expensive dress.” Ridiculous.</p>
<p>As the mom of 5 Ds, one of whom is married and another who will be getting married this summer, we’re pretty much surrounded by wedding related ‘stuff’ with attendance at multiple weddings for the past five years. This is the first I’ve heard of this phenomenon, and my first thought was how tacky can people get.</p>
<p>I think they will regret it in the future. When Bullet and I were engaged I had a choice of all of the women’s dresses in my family. I bought my own, but I did wear my Mom’s headpiece. I don’t expect our one and only DD to wear mine, but it was very expensive for our day ($1200 in 1988), so if she wants to take it and cut it apart to make her own design I would be fine with that.</p>
<p>Sorry, but to me it shows a lack of maturity. A wedding is a wedding, but basically besides photos all you will have to remember that day is 3 other things:
Spouse
Ring
Gown</p>
<p>Our DD when she was little would put on my dress and it would bring smiles to Bullet and my face. Any bride who trashes her dress, even a $50 dress will regret it in the future.</p>
<p>It doesn’t happen during the wedding… It usually happens after the wedding is over, when the couple is back from the honeymoon.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t make a stink about it, I don’t think, but it’d definitely be something that I’d incorporate into my opinions about the bride’s character.</p>
<p>lots of the pics the photographers show in their portfolio’s of the sessions involve water of some kind and the bride and the dress…as its the St louis area photographer’s we’re looking at, its usually a fountain in the area…either downtown near the arch, or in the Botanical Gardens there or the city’s largest park…Forest Park.
D will NOT being doing this to her dress LOL.</p>
<p>I still have my dress in my cedar chest- its still my " wedding dress" even if it only cost $80 ( on sale) at Frederick’s.
( or maybe that was also after I got grandma’s discount).
But it is a very * stylish* Jessica McClintock, with a high collar and flounces. I really don’t think, even if either of my kids get married, that they would want to wear it- but maybe some kids would like to use it for dress up someday.</p>
<p>( I also agree with one of the comments re the article that they would have worn * their mom’s* but she had borrowed her own wedding gown, my moms dress would have looked great on me ( but she was actually about 4 inches taller anyway )</p>
<p>boy see what * my memory* is like.
I didn’t even have a tie on my dress & the skirt was completely different, because it wasn’t tiered and was just tulle net , with a flounce at the bottom.
sorry- didn’t mean to make this into a fashion thread.</p>
<p>Don’t regret giving my wedding dress to Goodwill. It’s a dress from my first marriage. I would never wear it again and didn’t see the point in keeping it–bad memories. The second time around, I wore a beautiful white suit, which I still have.</p>
<p>My D (who got married last June) recently sent her dress off for cleaning/preserving. She sent it to a place recommended by the bridal shop–total cost for the whole thing: $400. Seemed a bit expensive.</p>
<p>HI! I am the bride you are speaking of. “paying3tuitions” - I’m sure you didn’t mean to speak about someone without knowing the whole story, that would just be rude and judgmental. To give you some insight, my dress was not the type to make a christening gown out of or reappropriate in other ways and I thought the photos would be fun to have… really when do you get to do something like that! PS the dress was cleaned at the dry cleaner, looks like new and has been donated!</p>
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