<p>Mr. Moderator…I feel removing the thread from the UNC site was not appropriate. They should be able to have their own discussion. It allowed, students, parents and other community members to have a place to discuss.</p>
<p>Atlmom,
There is a thread in the UNC forum, started by eadad earlier today. Did you start your thread in the college section or the parents section?? It is certainly understandible that these horriffic incidents, now compounded by the suicide of an 18 yr old boy in front of 150 people in his Mobile, Ala HS, [WSFA</a> TV Montgomery, AL - Police: Teen shot self to death in Mobile high school gym](<a href=“http://www.wsfa.com/global/story.asp?s=7976209]WSFA”>http://www.wsfa.com/global/story.asp?s=7976209) triggered many multiple threads on these losses. It is simply overwhelming.</p>
<p>What is going on in our schools? Can’t anybody please do anything about this?</p>
<p>I hope that the family find the strength to move on.</p>
<p>I hate this crappy news. My D, who has lots of hs friends at UNC (and who was just down there this weekend), is stunned. One of the concerns I had when she made her decision to go to UMD – College Park, was the safety outside the campus and in DC. On the flip side of her choices was Chapel Hill, as idyllic a setting as one could have for a school. or so we thought.</p>
<p>There are bad people everywhere. We can’t be terror-stricken, but it shows us that there’s no “safe” place. This young woman was so well-known and well-liked; the effects of this senseless crime will be widespread. </p>
<p>I agree with jym…this is all overwhelming.</p>
<p>Very true apmom. I don’t think you could find a college town that seems more perfect than Chapel Hill…charming, beautiful and historic tucked away in the forest away from all hubbub of big highways and urban sprawl. The area in which this crime occurred is very near the campus and among the quiet streets of expensive historic homes. </p>
<p>But sometimes, what makes a place so perfect, also makes it a target. It’s a hard thing to work this one out with your kids too…how to live a worry-free life while always being smart and aware that bad things can happen. What a balancing act.</p>
<p>Very, very sad. Eve Carson was truly such an outstanding young person who positively touched so many lives-- a real inspiration to us all. My heart goes out to her family and friends, and to our entire UNC community. There will be a 7 pm vigil tonight on campus.</p>
<p>Looks like they’ve found her vehicle. No details yet.</p>
<p>My D met and spoke with her when she was there last weekend for Morehead Finalist Weekend (she didn’t get the scholarship, BTW), and we are both stunned…there is nothing to say.</p>
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<p>Has photos of memorial this afternoon, video of police update</p>
<p>Atlmom, </p>
<p>I did NOT move any threads on this topic from the UNC-Chapel Hill forum. Rather, earlier today I MERGED a thread on the Parent Forum with another one started here in the Parent Cafe around the same time. AFTER that, I saw YOU start yet a third thread about it on the Parent Forum and so I moved your new post/thread to this one as we don’t need THREE on this in the Parent section on CC. One will suffice. I have not touched any in the UNC forums. I hope I have cleared that up for you.</p>
<p>Many sympathies from CC on all of these tragic losses of college students lately. Let’s not forget the young coed in Reno either.</p>
<p>CollegeMom- thanks for mentioning the young woman in Reno. She was a student at Santa Barbara City College. Visiting friends and family in Reno when she was abducted and killed. She was taken while sleeping on the couch of a friend. The door was left unlocked.
So much sadness. Sympathies to all.</p>
<p>My D, who is a student at Duke, just confirmed that no alert was sent to Duke students that a UNC student was murdered.</p>
<p>To say the least this is extremely disappointing to me as a parent.</p>
<p>The loss of a child at any age is devastating to parents and other family mmebers. My deepest sympathy for Eva’s family.</p>
<p>I was just reading her bio and watching her flashtime on the Morehead website [Morehead</a> Scholars Multimedia Project](<a href=“http://www.moreheadscholars.org/FLASH/content.html]Morehead”>http://www.moreheadscholars.org/FLASH/content.html) What an incredible person and such an unspeakable loss for the UNC and Carson families.</p>
<p>If you put “Eve Carson” into the search box at youtube.com. you will find a special two part edition of Carolina Week (a campus TV news show) about this tragedy. There are also several other videos of Eve–her swearing in as student body president, interview with her as a candidate, welcome to incoming students, etc. </p>
<p>My heart goes out to her family and friends. May God give them strength to deal with this.</p>
<p>Sometimes I’m not sure I could survive such a loss.</p>
<p>So this may have been a random act? I can’t imagine anything worse. How do you deal with the idea your child was just a random target, in the wrong place at the wrong time? </p>
<p>Can’t imagine the grief the family and friends must be feeling. Every day we have with our children is a gift.</p>
<p>It is ironic that the happenstance of this particular victim may accomplish more publically in terms of awareness and investigative thoroughness than a less prominent young woman might have. As a result, perhaps she will have made more of a difference, and other lives may be saved. </p>
<p>While it is hard to imagine there being a connection, it is quite a coincidence that two women from Georgia were almost simultaneous victims at schools in different states…not sure what to think.</p>
<p>A collection of articles from today’s Daily Tar Heel:</p>
<p>[Daily</a> Tar Heel](<a href=“http://www.dailytarheel.com/]Daily”>http://www.dailytarheel.com/)</p>
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<p>Well, the FBI stats indicate that in 2002-2004 there were over 16,000 murders per year. Of those murders where the relationship of the murderer and the victim is known, only 2 out of 7 are strangers.</p>
<p>I agree that a random murder of a child is beyond comprehension.</p>
<p>I cannot think that random is worse. Knowing the murderer, having them in the family or circle of acquaintances would bring a guilt that nothing was perceived or predictable, and I think I would feel somewhat to blame.</p>